lurker74 Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 Wow - I'm really surprised by a lot of these responses. So, I go on a date and a woman says, "You're too extroverted" and I say, "Actually, I'm not that extroverted and I had a good time. Are you sure you don't want to try again?" And the response is that he's probably a womanizer? I guess IDK what a guy is supposed to say. Is asking for a second chance evidence that I'm a douche? And then when she says, "OK, how about Wednesday," and I am legitimately busy (and don't hide the fact that it's with a female, which would be a bit douchey to lie about) that's further evidence? I mean, no one needs any excuse to not go on a date with someone. Everyone has their reasons but this strikes me as red flag radar being just a tad too sensitive...Like Jerry Seinfeld. 1
Gaeta Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 IDK if he's a player, but let's look at the facts. You rejected him, he persisted, then when you agreed to a date he said he's busy and he's on dating app constantly. Sounds like low interest at best. If you proceed with him, keep expectations really low. That's now how I see it. She rejected him. What was he suppose to do? She waited a while, she doesn't say how long and decided she changed her mind and wanted to see him again. The guy happened to be busy. He did nothing wrong. Of course he's on a dating site, she rejected him. She's lucky he even replied to her text. 3
olivetree Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 I'm surprised no one has pointed out that he said he was busy but didn't offer an alternative day. That to me says his interest has declined. Anyway, I do think it's good for you to take time out so that you can differentiate between your gut instinct telling you something is off with good reason and when you're sabotaging. 1
Author Carlotte Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 I'm surprised no one has pointed out that he said he was busy but didn't offer an alternative day. That to me says his interest has declined. Anyway, I do think it's good for you to take time out so that you can differentiate between your gut instinct telling you something is off with good reason and when you're sabotaging. To me his interest has not declined but wasn't there in the first place.I know he is dating other girls while still claiming how amazing I am and how he wants to date me. Sorry, but a guy who is nice and kind will not be stringing along anyone from the beginning. He is using the dating site almost all the time so I do not think he wants something serious.
Miss Spider Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 (edited) He doesn't even plan or suggest a second, alternate date. There's no point in even thinking about him anymore Edited February 7, 2018 by Cookiesandough
Author Carlotte Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 He doesn't even plan or suggest a second, alternate date. There's no point in even thinking about him anymore Well, this I can understand because I am leaving the city for few days. However, for me the whole thing doesn't make sense anyway.
Miss Spider Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 True but I think when they are interested they usually ask you when you'll be back, if he can see you then, and pester you a bit while you're away. I say pass on thinking of him and on to the enxt
Recommended Posts