zoey15 Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 I've been seeing my MM for only four months and he's already brought up his jealousy. He tells me when we're out that I'm always looking at other men and it bothers him. He's brought this up several times, then a couple days ago he mentioned how it bothers him when other men will buy me drinks at the bar when we're together. The men that buy them from me are friends. I just think it's weird that a MM would feel insecure after having two women.
califlorgian Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Oh yes. My mm is EXTREMELY jealous. It's pretty ridiculous. I try to blow it off because I am very jealous myself. But sometimes he can be extreme about it. He basically doesn't want me to have any guy friends. He freaked out when he looked through my phone and saw guys' names in my address book. He is always asking who I am with and the answer is ALWAYS the same... NOOOOBODY. He constantly questions me and asks if I have had sex with anyone else and the answer, of course, is always no. It's really not fair. He is married. And DOES sleep with his wife from time to time. He is a strip club DJ as well and is constantly getting groped by the girls. He just..... ugh... I dont know. But to answer your question... Yes, he gets VERY VERY OVERLY jealous.
Author zoey15 Posted August 25, 2005 Author Posted August 25, 2005 well I can see why he gets jealous, you're a very beautiful woman. He freaked out when he looked through my phone and saw guys' names in my address book. You reminded me of another situation. He picked up my cell phone one day and started scrolling through it. He said I just want to see if I know anyone in here. I got the phone back right away, but I thought great this guy is a jealous one. How long have you been seeing your MM?
ConfusedMM Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by zoey15 well I can see why he gets jealous, you're a very beautiful woman. You reminded me of another situation. He picked up my cell phone one day and started scrolling through it. He said I just want to see if I know anyone in here. I got the phone back right away, but I thought great this guy is a jealous one. How long have you been seeing your MM? My MW was never jealous of anything I did or anyone I talked to of the female persuasion. Though I was highly jealous with her. I even went so far as to ask her to not cheat on me. I look at that now and see it as laughable because here I am married and she is married and we are sleeping together, so yeah I see it as a joke now. I don't know what I was thinking. But I was highly jealous of her.
I was the OW Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Yeppers, he was jealous. I have to admit, I am a very outgoing person and I do love to talk and flirt with men. He would get upset when he seen me flirting with other guys. I told him he had no worries, it was all just fun. I don't know why he thought he still had the right to be jealous when we were seeing eachother because he was still having sex with his W and they were even going through a D and seperated. He was just using her for sex but I don't think he was using me. He told me he loved me, gave me the most beautiful poems and love letters and told me he would marry me that day if he could, but yet he was still screwing his W. Now that I think of it, what a jerk! At the time I was a little hurt when he told me he had slept with her. I knew of one time as he told me. I asked him where he was the night before and he said he went to see his W. When I asked him if he slept with her he said he had. I asked him why he said it was because it was their anniversary. I should of known then he was still in love with her and probably didn't plan on going through the D but I was totally in love with him and I just couldn't let go.
RecordProducer Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Califlorgian, what's a beautiful girl like you doing with a married stip club DJ?
mopar crazy Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer Califlorgian, what's a beautiful girl like you doing with a married stip club DJ? That is what I thought RP. She is a beatiful woman, she could have any SG she wants and not have to worry about the guy being M.
aklost101 Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 "my" MM, like most on here, it seems, is jealous of my friendships w/ other men, while he still goes home every night to his wife and makes love with her on a semi-frequent basis. perhaps he is jealous if my friendships b/c that's how it all started for him and i; we were friends. maybe he thinks i'll sleep around and catch a nasty disease that he'll inadvertently pass along to his wife and then the charade will be up. yup. i think i hit on the nail on the head with that one.
califlorgian Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Awww.... thank you guys so much. I have some insecurity issues.... probably stemming from a long time ago. And probably because of the kind of situations I get in with guys, such as this one.... so I really appreciate the compliments. I actually used to work with him. We started out as friends and he wanted to be more than that. I wouldn't for a long time. But we became really good friends and he confided so many things in me. About, wow, so much. He said he has never been able to have an honest relationship and really wanted one with me. He tells me a lot of things.... cries.... I don't know. There is so much to it and I really don't know where to start. I just fell in love with him. I don't know how he did it, but now I am in deep and I am so depressed. I talked about it some a couple posts below this one. 'Perpetual sadness' is the title (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t69464/). That's what I have been dealing with. It's just never ending heartache and I have no idea how I got myself into this. I tend to get involved with guys like this. He is very sweet and loving and all that.... but.... you know. My previous ex physically abused me. I have been mentally abused by several people. I guess I am just kind of messed up and this guy talks about how much he loves and cares for me and makes me feel so special. *sigh* I just don't know what to do with myself.
Author zoey15 Posted August 26, 2005 Author Posted August 26, 2005 My MW was never jealous of anything I did or anyone I talked to of the female persuasion. Though I was highly jealous with her. I even went so far as to ask her to not cheat on me. I look at that now and see it as laughable because here I am married and she is married and we are sleeping together, so yeah I see it as a joke now. I don't know what I was thinking. But I was highly jealous of her. So you admit it's funny now, but what were you thinking? Seriously, you have to have some idea of what it was at the time.
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