Ta222 Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Is it possible for someone to have multiple rebound relationships? Someone who is recently divorced and went into a 6 month relationship after a couple months being divorced and then after that recent relationship ended hopped into another one 3 weeks after he ended the previous one.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Could just be someone who likes to be in relationships. I don't think every relationship that comes after the end of another one should be classified as a rebound, regardless of whether it works out.
Jj66 Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Of course. And its going to keep happening over and over until he stops the nonsense and works on himself. Jumping from one rs to the next just delays the eventual reckoning. 1
central Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Post-divorce relationships that fail aren't always rebounds. Many of these relationships end because of incompatibility, or a red flag issue is discovered. I dated dozens of women and had a number of short relationships that I ended - because they weren't what I wanted, not because I wasn't ready. I found a great match after about a year, and we've been together ever since. 1
Author Ta222 Posted February 2, 2018 Author Posted February 2, 2018 Could just be someone who likes to be in relationships. I don't think every relationship that comes after the end of another one should be classified as a rebound, regardless of whether it works out. Could be but how do you build a solid foundation for a relationship to last if you get into a relationship within a month of knowing the person?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Could be but how do you build a solid foundation for a relationship to last if you get into a relationship within a month of knowing the person? I guess it depends on what "get into a relationship" means. Does it mean moving in together? Or just deciding to date only each other? There's a big difference.
Author Ta222 Posted February 2, 2018 Author Posted February 2, 2018 I guess it depends on what "get into a relationship" means. Does it mean moving in together? Or just deciding to date only each other? There's a big difference. Like exclusively seeing each other
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Like exclusively seeing each other One month seems like enough time to decide whether or not you want to exclusively date one another. It's not making a lifetime commitment, but it's making a commitment for now.
Author Ta222 Posted February 2, 2018 Author Posted February 2, 2018 I guess it depends on what "get into a relationship" means. Does it mean moving in together? Or just deciding to date only each other? There's a big difference. One month seems like enough time to decide whether or not you want to exclusively date one another. It's not making a lifetime commitment, but it's making a commitment for now. True..just been confused. I was his first relationship after his divorce and he went pretty fast and told me he loved me after 3-4 weeks of being together..further into it he went to saying he wanted to marry me and have a future with me, moving in talk possibly later in the relationship. Then he got distant the last two weeks and just ended it saying he couldn't have me move away with him because he did that for his ex and it ended horribly and he just wasn't ready for that etc. then after we break up he gets into an exclusive relationship 3 weeks later.
Young mind Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 'Rebound' is the term used broadly to classify this type of behavior, it does get massively attacked , some will say it's not a rebound, it's a new relationship, some will say rebounds don't exist for the dumper because "they gradually detached from the relationship months prior " or if you have moved on it's not a rebound. The context missed after LTR is the need for self evaluation, critique of the past relationship and analysis why it ended, if there's no evaluation, one can be on a cycle of 'rebounds' for eternity, regardless of how long it lasts. We think it's about the length but we don't really know how the relationship is faring, in this case, I believe yes, these are multiple rebounds
CantTakeMySmile Posted February 3, 2018 Posted February 3, 2018 True..just been confused. I was his first relationship after his divorce and he went pretty fast and told me he loved me after 3-4 weeks of being together..further into it he went to saying he wanted to marry me and have a future with me, moving in talk possibly later in the relationship. Then he got distant the last two weeks and just ended it saying he couldn't have me move away with him because he did that for his ex and it ended horribly and he just wasn't ready for that etc. then after we break up he gets into an exclusive relationship 3 weeks later. I don't think dating someone exclusively always determines how serious yhe relationship is. Many people like to only date one person at a time. If it works, then great. If not, then they tried. I don't date more than one person at a time, but that doesn't necessarily mean I am in love. 1
Author Ta222 Posted February 3, 2018 Author Posted February 3, 2018 I don't think dating someone exclusively always determines how serious yhe relationship is. Many people like to only date one person at a time. If it works, then great. If not, then they tried. I don't date more than one person at a time, but that doesn't necessarily mean I am in love. It just makes me feel like he completely lied to me about him loving me and wanting that future with me. It makes me question if he is even moving in 3 months like he said. I would assume they are moving just as fast as we did too which should have set red flags off for me but I didn't even realize it at the time how he pushed everything that fast. The declaring he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, the gifts, photos, asking me to leave clothes at his place and stay the night.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 3, 2018 Posted February 3, 2018 It just makes me feel like he completely lied to me about him loving me and wanting that future with me. It makes me question if he is even moving in 3 months like he said. I would assume they are moving just as fast as we did too which should have set red flags off for me but I didn't even realize it at the time how he pushed everything that fast. The declaring he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, the gifts, photos, asking me to leave clothes at his place and stay the night. He wasn't lying to you, but he may have interpreted the rush of emotions he was feeling that most people experience in the beginning of a relationship. Some people just get carried away, putting the cart before the horse so-to-speak. It's possible he's moving just as fast with this new person, but it's also possible he learned his lesson and is not. You said you should have seen the red flags....maybe so. So you've learned something too. Every relationship is a learning experience. 1
Author Ta222 Posted February 3, 2018 Author Posted February 3, 2018 He wasn't lying to you, but he may have interpreted the rush of emotions he was feeling that most people experience in the beginning of a relationship. Some people just get carried away, putting the cart before the horse so-to-speak. It's possible he's moving just as fast with this new person, but it's also possible he learned his lesson and is not. You said you should have seen the red flags....maybe so. So you've learned something too. Every relationship is a learning experience. I guess my fears were: A. He left me for her even though I've never seen or heard of her before and the time he got distant we were still together majority of the time. B. I was his rebound from his marriage where he never told me he was actually married before and that I healed him and is now serious about this girl. It's hurtful when someone tells you this elaborate reason why you can't be together and insists on a dinner a week later to tell you the same thing and say he has no interest in dating for awhile..
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 3, 2018 Posted February 3, 2018 I guess my fears were: A. He left me for her even though I've never seen or heard of her before and the time he got distant we were still together majority of the time. B. I was his rebound from his marriage where he never told me he was actually married before and that I healed him and is now serious about this girl. It's hurtful when someone tells you this elaborate reason why you can't be together and insists on a dinner a week later to tell you the same thing and say he has no interest in dating for awhile.. Rejection hurts no matter how you dice it . It's ok to feel hurt no matter what the "reasons" behind it are. Both scenarios suck. And I really don't think he is "healed." Sounds like you're better off without him, although I know that doesn't help at this moment.
Author Ta222 Posted February 3, 2018 Author Posted February 3, 2018 Rejection hurts no matter how you dice it . It's ok to feel hurt no matter what the "reasons" behind it are. Both scenarios suck. And I really don't think he is "healed." Sounds like you're better off without him, although I know that doesn't help at this moment. I've questioned that too. He has been divorced less than a year and says she cheated on him. Thank you for that! Any advice helps I appreciate it 1
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