ggaile Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 I'm the Dumper of an 8 year relationship and having a rough time. I told him about 2 weeks ago that I want a different path in life. - We have a dog and I am already missing the dog. - I feel extremely guilty. He is being Super nice since we broke up. -as if this isn't enough we still live in the same house for now. Any ideas other than no contact rule?
Miss Spider Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 The guilty feeling is understandable. Are there any other details you can share about the breakup?
DevastatedJDC Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Shouldn't have dumped someone if you weren't sure...... More details?
Author ggaile Posted February 2, 2018 Author Posted February 2, 2018 Well as always, it's complicated. I've paid most of the bills for 8 years because he won't get a steady job. plus my mother moved in and he has been rude to her. I want an active life with travel etc. he just wants to work on his hobbies in the garage.
signal Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 In what way has he been rude to your mother? I suppose, in my own personal case, that plays a big factor. My wife has serious issues with my parents and verbally rude to my mother on more then one occasion. This has had a major impact on me initiating to leave her. If you can’t respect elders especially my mother then how can you say you love me?! That’s the question you need to ask yourself. Again it all depends on what was said etc
clam Posted February 3, 2018 Posted February 3, 2018 Quit second guessing yourself. I’m sure he must have some redeeming qualities (after all you’ve loved him and been with him for 8 years), but he refuses to hold down a steady job and contribute to the household expenses in any meaningful way. Honestly he sounds like a deadbeat freeloader. And rude to your mother, to boot. You’re better off letting go and moving on.
Young mind Posted February 3, 2018 Posted February 3, 2018 Every situation is unique, TRUE, I still believe in second chances, have you sat down to table out all your worries , and concerns for the last time?, have you given him the chance to change ?, sometimes we wanna go out and explore leaving gold behind, I believe all the options here can be managed, you can have compromises about the travels, some people aren't into traveling, I don't think this should be a huge incompatibility issue, you can ask him to try to get a job and better his life. Eventually if all your needs aren't met, you can truly leave, if you truly love him there will be second guessing, this is normal . Always follow your heart 1
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