Red2016 Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 I have been on 3 dates with a guy (very smart, a catch overall), in the past 2-3 weeks. Chemistry is great, conversation is fun, interesting and overall, he is a total gentleman. Opens doors, gives me a ride home etc.. BUT. He vanishes between dates and is not much of a texter. For the second date t one point, he tried to confirm plans that day/morning. The for the third, he made RSVP for a show and dinner etc.. At the end of 3rd, which took place earlier this week, he asked if I was free Friday, which I said yes and we agreed to go to the movies etc. I said to tell me the plan later As per usual, he has vanished and given that the "date" is tomorrow, I am not sure what to do. Sure, he is probably dating around but the only reason I ask is because on the date, he is really great and I can tell he like me a lot but he doesnt maintain communication between dates other than setting them up. So... do I WAIT for him to text me about tomorrow? It is already approaching Thursday evening. or just text him and ask? (and what to say exactly)? I feel I have nothing to lose by sending a text. Either he likes me or he doesnt. Thanks!
smackie9 Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 I think you should step up and say something. Some guys think texting too much makes them look too available turning off the ladies. Maybe he will comply and be more into it. If not, kick him to the curb and find a more romantic interested man. 1
lovephule Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 If you haven't decided on which movie to see you could pick two and ask him which sounds better.
Author Red2016 Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 Instead of that, should I sk what we are doing tomorrow? or if we are meeting toorrow
Miss Spider Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 This wouldn't work for me...it's really kind of rude IMO. If you ask for someone's time you should make sure they know what it's being reserved for.
Author Red2016 Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 Okay, I texted and he replied in 5 mins asking for what time I am available tomorrow. haha
callmegm Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Maybe he was just following the game of not being too available so that it would turn women off? Give him a chance and text him every now and then for conversations.
Author Red2016 Posted February 2, 2018 Author Posted February 2, 2018 I think ill have to cut him loose unfortunately... He threw out some ideas over text, places that we were thinking of going, but closed and etc, and I also did the same and asked if we can do xyz etc. and replies back a while later: Ok. Seems the interest isnt mutual at all.
greymatter Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Does he have kids or a crazy work schedule or some other obligation that you think keeps him from reaching out, other than to arrange dates?
Author Red2016 Posted February 2, 2018 Author Posted February 2, 2018 Does he have kids or a crazy work schedule or some other obligation that you think keeps him from reaching out, other than to arrange dates? Young, in his 30s. Busy work but even during off hours, no communication despite REALLY good rapport on date. My gut now tells me, he may be a player. Explains why he makes you feel really special on the date but no communication and also, i feel if the interest level was mutual I would know by now
greymatter Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Young, in his 30s. Busy work but even during off hours, no communication despite REALLY good rapport on date. My gut now tells me, he may be a player. Explains why he makes you feel really special on the date but no communication and also, i feel if the interest level was mutual I would know by now I don't know, if he is great in person, I wouldn't be too quick to assume the worst. In the absence of a history with him (though your dates have been good and he has been fun and polite), and more solid information, seems premature to break it off based on lots of projection - unless you just don't want to date him.
Zahara Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 Young, in his 30s. Busy work but even during off hours, no communication despite REALLY good rapport on date. My gut now tells me, he may be a player. Explains why he makes you feel really special on the date but no communication and also, i feel if the interest level was mutual I would know by now I'd pass on this one. When a guy is interested he's going to keep communication going. It's really that simple. Listen to your gut. It's usually right. 2
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 I think his failure to be concrete in advance is a problem. That said if you want to go to the movies with him tonight text him with the name of the film you want to see, the location of the theater & the screening time. See what he responds.
MaleIntuition Posted February 2, 2018 Posted February 2, 2018 I'd pass on this one. When a guy is interested he's going to keep communication going. It's really that simple. Listen to your gut. It's usually right. This is a generalisation. A pretty common dating advice for guys is to use the phone to set up dates and limit the texting in between. Also, obviously, not everyone likes texting. If you like him, don’t preemptively dump him. Don’t invest to much feelings or hope when your spider senses are going off, but we must take some risks when we date.
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