CrazyKatLady Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Hello, I am new here...I have been looking daily at the posts for a week now on this forum and have learned a lot that I did not previously know... Is it wrong for me to say that after NC (he initiated it) that I am finding out how the "dating" world works and have decided to take a hiatus from finding the company of men a welcome intrusion into my life. I did not even know about NC until reading these posts-I am not the most sophisticated young woman as I spent 28 years of my life taking care of my family and therefore, living with them. It wasn't until everyone had passed away that I finally started to live for myself...and that is fine, I was glad to be there for my mother and grandparents and uncle during their last time here...but it left me in short supply of knowledge on men and how to date...I was devastated after this man left me in December 2017, but now I see that he was using the etiquette of dating--something I never really knew about. I just kind of go through life with my rose colored glasses on--assuming the world is mostly a good place and filled with mostly decent people. And it is, I believe...mostly a good place and with decent individuals, and sometimes the painful lessons are the ones you can gather a lot of positives from if you have a good attitude and choose to readjust your thinking so that you can understand the world around you. Plus, there is always Amazon-with a wicked selection of adult products that can help you work out any kinks that may be left over from the breakup...I make light of the situation, but it has been a painful learning experience and now that I know my level of sophistication I choose to not date anytime soon...if ever. Although I learned much from this man and how to "date normally" I enjoy my lack of sophistication and my warmth, my sincerity, my honesty, and my openness to male contact and do not wish to change sides and join him in his views ever again. If this is what the dating world has to offer at the highest level of education and good living--then I believe I am better off alone or with someone who can get down to my level and let go of the harsh judgements when viewing another persons life. I am pretty excited to be able to discuss my issues somewhere, thank you for listening!
stillafool Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 I'm not sure what you mean by "dating normally". Most people just meet someone they like, go out with them and get to know them. It's really not that complicated. You say you are a young woman but took care of your relatives for 28 years. Is this correct?
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