Payall Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Me and my ex broke up fine, however he’s been trying to make me jealous. He spoken about me to his family. I confronted his cousin and she denied it all, I used to have his sister and cousin on Facebook. Now, I’ve blocked them. I decided to block him of my parents account because I didn’t want to associate myself with him. My Mum unblocked him, I didn’t really care as I blocked him out of anger. Then.. My ex blocked her back. I don’t understand why he’s searching for my family in the first place. Why is he behaving like this?
Mr.Me Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Jealousy is usually rooted in self esteem. Perhaps he's emotionally hurting and has conflicting feelings.
Sara1989 Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Why shouldn't he talk to his own family about you? that is a pretty normal thing to do. Also very immature to start blocking all his family members, unfriending yes but blocking... 1
act00 Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 I don't see how talking about you, your breakup, relationship, etc., with his family is a jealousy tactic. Apparently you're still friends with his family members, so you're simply going to hear about things, and this isn't necessarily him going out of his way to make you jealous. I don't think it's strange to block out family and/or friends of the ex, depending on the relationship, length of time, dynamics. I did it with mine, but I was divorcing from an abusive ex, and while I adored most of his family, it wasn't a situation where I needed our lives to intermix more than necessary or for anything posted (which is nothing naughty) to be misconstrued should they see something through a mutual friend. I would be upset if my mom or sister or close friends/family maintained him on FB. Again, it depends on the situation. Making you jealous would be deliberately making sure you saw him with another woman to the point he goes out of his way to be around work, school, where you shop, grab your morning coffee (as examples) when it's not normal or unnecessary. An example would be to take a date to the restaurant you work at, or take a date to the hiking trail you go to every Sunday at 6 a.m. and be sure to be extra affectionate with the new lady. Talking to his family is not a jealousy tactic. What's being said to his family that makes you think it's a jealousy thing? Do you question the family's motives for telling you about it? I remember someone telling me about an ex as if he was an old friend, and I responded, that I don't want to hear about it, he's an ex and it hurts. They might be ignorant or cruel, I don't know. If you don't want to hear about him, you might have to drop these friendships. Unfortunately, this happens with breakups.
heavenonearth Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 To block or unblock - that is the question. Silly games. 1
Author Payall Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 I don't see how talking about you, your breakup, relationship, etc., with his family is a jealousy tactic. Apparently you're still friends with his family members, so you're simply going to hear about things, and this isn't necessarily him going out of his way to make you jealous. I don't think it's strange to block out family and/or friends of the ex, depending on the relationship, length of time, dynamics. I did it with mine, but I was divorcing from an abusive ex, and while I adored most of his family, it wasn't a situation where I needed our lives to intermix more than necessary or for anything posted (which is nothing naughty) to be misconstrued should they see something through a mutual friend. I would be upset if my mom or sister or close friends/family maintained him on FB. Again, it depends on the situation. Making you jealous would be deliberately making sure you saw him with another woman to the point he goes out of his way to be around work, school, where you shop, grab your morning coffee (as examples) when it's not normal or unnecessary. An example would be to take a date to the restaurant you work at, or take a date to the hiking trail you go to every Sunday at 6 a.m. and be sure to be extra affectionate with the new lady. Talking to his family is not a jealousy tactic. What's being said to his family that makes you think it's a jealousy thing? Do you question the family's motives for telling you about it? I remember someone telling me about an ex as if he was an old friend, and I responded, that I don't want to hear about it, he's an ex and it hurts. They might be ignorant or cruel, I don't know. If you don't want to hear about him, you might have to drop these friendships. Unfortunately, this happens with breakups. We broke up 2 years ago, his family didn’t approve of me and now he’s depressed. He had a girlfriend who he used to crop out of photos. I looked at his profile and he found out because I accidentally “liked” something after that he started posting pictures of them together and his cousin started liking all my posts. I confronted her about it, then next month he breaks up with his girlfriend.. It felt like he was only with her to rub salt to my wounds. I can understand if we broke up recently. He hasn’t blocked my adds but he only blocked my Mum. I didn’t tell my Dad about him, he probably was offended she blocked him or he thinks she hates him so he blocked her back. It’s all petty and immature.
Author Payall Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 I don't see how talking about you, your breakup, relationship, etc., with his family is a jealousy tactic. Apparently you're still friends with his family members, so you're simply going to hear about things, and this isn't necessarily him going out of his way to make you jealous. I don't think it's strange to block out family and/or friends of the ex, depending on the relationship, length of time, dynamics. I did it with mine, but I was divorcing from an abusive ex, and while I adored most of his family, it wasn't a situation where I needed our lives to intermix more than necessary or for anything posted (which is nothing naughty) to be misconstrued should they see something through a mutual friend. I would be upset if my mom or sister or close friends/family maintained him on FB. Again, it depends on the situation. Making you jealous would be deliberately making sure you saw him with another woman to the point he goes out of his way to be around work, school, where you shop, grab your morning coffee (as examples) when it's not normal or unnecessary. An example would be to take a date to the restaurant you work at, or take a date to the hiking trail you go to every Sunday at 6 a.m. and be sure to be extra affectionate with the new lady. Talking to his family is not a jealousy tactic. What's being said to his family that makes you think it's a jealousy thing? Do you question the family's motives for telling you about it? I remember someone telling me about an ex as if he was an old friend, and I responded, that I don't want to hear about it, he's an ex and it hurts. They might be ignorant or cruel, I don't know. If you don't want to hear about him, you might have to drop these friendships. Unfortunately, this happens with breakups. Forgot to mention, he also wanted to reconcile..
Author Payall Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 Why shouldn't he talk to his own family about you? that is a pretty normal thing to do. Also very immature to start blocking all his family members, unfriending yes but blocking... Because we broke up two years ago, it seemed so stupid to do it now. I haven’t spoken to him. I think he blocked my Mum back because he thinks she Hayden him. He hasn’t blocked my Dad because he doesn’t know about him
Author Payall Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 Jealousy is usually rooted in self esteem. Perhaps he's emotionally hurting and has conflicting feelings. Probably true, he should just speak to me rather than playing childish games
Author Payall Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 Probably true, he should just speak to me rather than playing childish games Is there a reason why he did this now?
kendahke Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 because you're both acting out of anger and lashing out at each other... For it being 2 years out, you're waaaaaaaaaaay too invested in him. And it's quite all right for him to talk about whatever and whomever he chooses with his family--that group is loyal to him, so of course he's going to talk to them. You're here talking to us about him, so what's the difference? We're only getting one side of the problem here--and there are two other sides to consider: his and the truth. For your own mental health and well being, it might be a really good idea that since this break up happened 2 years ago, it's time for you to quit holding onto it as if it's your life raft.
stillafool Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 This may well be nothing at all. After 2 years he probably isn't thinking the way you think he is.
Author Payall Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 because you're both acting out of anger and lashing out at each other... For it being 2 years out, you're waaaaaaaaaaay too invested in him. And it's quite all right for him to talk about whatever and whomever he chooses with his family--that group is loyal to him, so of course he's going to talk to them. You're here talking to us about him, so what's the difference? We're only getting one side of the problem here--and there are two other sides to consider: his and the truth. For your own mental health and well being, it might be a really good idea that since this break up happened 2 years ago, it's time for you to quit holding onto it as if it's your life raft. Because they don't like me and used to make tweets about me. So, why talk about me to them now? I'm not invested, his cousin reached out to me by commenting and liking all my posts/pictures etc. I've blocked them both now. I just don't understand why he feels the need to speak to them about me or make me jealous.. And when I confront them about my concerns, he breaks up with his girlfriend and the pictures stop. Recently, he's been searching for my family on Facebook. Why? I've left his family alone and blocked them out of my life. He resorts to blocking my Mum. I just think it's all petty childish behaviour I don't speak to my family/friends about him, hence why I've posted on here.
Author Payall Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 This may well be nothing at all. After 2 years he probably isn't thinking the way you think he is. Read my previous post. He shouldn't be searching for my family on social media in the first place.
stillafool Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Why not? He may have just been curiously browsing. How do you feel he is trying to make you jealous?
Author Payall Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 Why not? He may have just been curiously browsing. How do you feel he is trying to make you jealous? Because when I looked at his profile I accidentally liked something. He used to crop his girlfriend out of his photos, as soon as I looked he started posting pictures of them together. I confronted his cousin, then the pictures stopped and he broke up with her. Fair enough he’s curious so he looked, why block?
she'stheone Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Hi Payall, I'm sorry you're still in so much pain about this previous relationship. He's not TRYING to make you jealous, he IS making you jealous. If after 2 years, his actions have you asking people (here or otherwise) about his behavior, then it is clear that you are still attached to him in some way. Because they don't like me and used to make tweets about me. So, why talk about me to them now? I'm not invested, his cousin reached out to me by commenting and liking all my posts/pictures etc. I've blocked them both now. I just don't understand why he feels the need to speak to them about me or make me jealous. And when I confront them about my concerns, he breaks up with his girlfriend and the pictures stop. Recently, he's been searching for my family on Facebook. Why? I've left his family alone and blocked them out of my life. He resorts to blocking my Mum. I just think it's all petty childish behaviour Instead of questioning HIS behavior, maybe you should look at your own. I understand you're upset and you probably wouldn't be, if you didn't still have some sort of attachment to this person. He's blocked, his family is blocked, there is no reason to expend any energy on this man or his actions, and yet, here you are, expending energy to find out why he's doing what he's doing. There are an infinite number of possible and probable reasons, this guy is doing what he's doing. You have been given some answers and you have rejected them all. Why? Because you are still invested in this relationship, if you weren't you would not have posted or responded the way you did. Do some personal development or spiritual work and release your attachments and anger towards this man, only then will you be able to move on in peace. Sending you much love and light 2
stillafool Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Because when I looked at his profile I accidentally liked something. He used to crop his girlfriend out of his photos, as soon as I looked he started posting pictures of them together. I confronted his cousin, then the pictures stopped and he broke up with her. Fair enough he’s curious so he looked, why block? "Accidentally" looked and liked? Okay, maybe he posted the pics to let you know he is still involved with his gf. Maybe they broke up from each other for different reasons. Thinking he is doing this after being broken up with you for 2-1/2 years is a bit of a stretch. Why? Has he asked you to get back together? 1
kendahke Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Because they don't like me and used to make tweets about me. So, why talk about me to them now? I just don't understand why he feels the need to speak to them about me Because he can. He chooses to. Fin. End of story. That's the simple answer to this... because he can and they give him an audience because they're his family. Also, he knows how to trigger you because, well... or make me jealous.. And when I confront them about my concerns, he breaks up with his girlfriend and the pictures stop. Which triggers you. Recently, he's been searching for my family on Facebook. Why? I've left his family alone and blocked them out of my life. He resorts to blocking my Mum. As is his right... your mom isn't losing sleep over it, is she? I just think it's all petty childish behaviour It's all childish behavior. I don't speak to my family/friends about him. And that's cool, too. His method is to talk to his family, so he will.
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