Kennybarb Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 I wrote my number down on a sheet of paper and handed it to this really attractive guy I noticed on the bus and said “hey I think you dropped this”. Even though I could barely get the words out. After I gave him my number, I walked to my car and I noticed he entered his but instead of driving off, he just sat there. Long story short I gave him my number about a month ago haven’t heard or seen him since (He changed bus times). He’s seems to be in his early 40s. I’m 25 but I’ve been told that I could get away with 27/28. After I gave him my number I caught him once staring at me continuously. And this morning I decided to take an early bus to get to work on time & he was there waiting for the bus to come. Once the bus came I boarded along with others. The minute the bus leaves he drives off to the gas station instead of going on the bus. Smh he’s deliberately going out of his way just to avoid coming in contact with me. Which doesn’t make sense to me because somce I’ve given him my number I’ve never once tried to talk to him or approach him so he should be worried about that. Appearance wise- Because the guy and I have never spoken so I’m judging based off of this. I’m an attractive women- 5’9 in shape, beautiful, etc. Any reasons why he’s acting so strange? To the point of avoiding Me at all costs.
smackie9 Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 He's either in a relationship or is married. He got your number just to see if he "still had it".
Gaeta Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 He's either in a relationship or is married. He got your number just to see if he "still had it". He did not ask for her number. She volunteered it on a piece of paper. OP: the guy may be married, in a relationship, or he's not interested in a younger woman, you're not his type, or 100 other reasons. Life goes on, forget about him. 11
smackie9 Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 Just because you are attractive, and guys stare, doesn't mean they are clamoring to date you. I agree with Gaeta. There could be many reasons why he's not contacting you. Hats off to you for taking a bold step to getting a date with a total stranger BUT, men usually prefer to do the asking. It may have confused him or even made him suspicious of your intentions because attractive women don't usually approach strange men unless they are a prostitute lol and I'm pretty sure this has never happened to him before and it freaked him out. You hear stories about this stuff where the guy later meets the girl only to be met with 3 thugs that are out to rob him.
Miss Spider Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 Maybe he’s attached, maybe he’s the type that likes to be ‘hunter’ not hunted, or not interested for a variety of other reasons. Oh well. Kudos to you for giving it a try anyway. You never know until you try! 1
Zahara Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 Appearance wise- Because the guy and I have never spoken so I’m judging based off of this. I’m an attractive women- 5’9 in shape, beautiful, etc. Any reasons why he’s acting so strange? To the point of avoiding Me at all costs. Maybe he wasn't attracted to you. Maybe he is married/girlfriend. Maybe he's gay. Maybe he's not interested in opening himself up to dating. A host of reasons. Maybe he's avoiding because he doesn't want to endure any sort of awkwardness or the possibility of being approached again. People don't always have to like you or accept your invitation. Don't take it personally. 1
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 I wrote my number down on a sheet of paper and handed it to this really attractive guy I noticed on the bus and said “hey I think you dropped this”. Even though I could barely get the words out. More important than any of the rest of this, is you giving yourself credit for having been SO bold and SO direct. That was really impressive, and if we were all that bold, we'd all have the guts to make such an effort. The right thing for the rest of us to say (strong possibility of accuracy) is that he (has been resisting you with all of his might because there is someone else in his life that he cares about). This is NOT a reflection on your worthiness or appeal... he's a lucky guy to have your attention. But maybe he is (even more the sort of a man you dream about - just because he can resist and be faithful to someone...) I still encourage you to dare such bold moves again and again! 3
Fleur de cactus Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 He does not want to start something he will regret, it is ok if he is not interested, stop keep trying. Since you are beautiful you will find someone else. Best. 1
SevenCity Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Sounds to me like he would totally have sex with you but doing so could screw up his current relationship. Guys like to run from temptation lest we give in. 2
preraph Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 This is a no-brainer. He's not interested and he doesn't want to have to deal with it on his commute. Even a married guy would likely soak up the flirtation if they were attracted. He's not. He could be gay or in love with his wife or anything. If he's really good looking, he could be very tired of women throwing themselves at him too. Sorry. 4
Miss Spider Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Or maybe he looked down at the paper for a sec and thought ‘...I didn’t drop this’ and just threw it away in the trash without reading it and his bus change has nothing to do with you. 7
whichwayisup Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Either he isn't interested or he's married or in a serious relationship and has no intention of cheating on his wife/girlfriend. Try to let it go and just know that it's probably a good thing he hasn't called. He isn't worth worrying over or even thinking about since he is avoiding you. You did nothing wrong! Hey you put yourself out there and took a chance! That's a good thing, but don't let rejection ruin you or make you feel bad. He may have been hot visually but who knows if the guy was a real jerk behind closed doors since you don't know him personally at all. 1
Purepony Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 He got your number I’m sure just can’t or won’t call you for whatever reason Move on it’s been a while. I do like that approach you used hats off to you for having the courage and being brave 1
Chilli Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 hey butttt. that was a really cool line, l'd be digging your humor. But sadly he ain't interested and he's a bit embarrassed , he might even worry you gonna jump on him if he gets too close 3
snowboy91 Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 I wrote my number down on a sheet of paper and handed it to this really attractive guy I noticed on the bus and said “hey I think you dropped this”. Even though I could barely get the words out. After I gave him my number, I walked to my car and I noticed he entered his but instead of driving off, he just sat there. Long story short I gave him my number about a month ago haven’t heard or seen him since (He changed bus times). He’s seems to be in his early 40s. I’m 25 but I’ve been told that I could get away with 27/28. After I gave him my number I caught him once staring at me continuously. And this morning I decided to take an early bus to get to work on time & he was there waiting for the bus to come. Once the bus came I boarded along with others. The minute the bus leaves he drives off to the gas station instead of going on the bus. Smh he’s deliberately going out of his way just to avoid coming in contact with me. Which doesn’t make sense to me because somce I’ve given him my number I’ve never once tried to talk to him or approach him so he should be worried about that. Appearance wise- Because the guy and I have never spoken so I’m judging based off of this. I’m an attractive women- 5’9 in shape, beautiful, etc. Any reasons why he’s acting so strange? To the point of avoiding Me at all costs. Wow that is game! As others have said, he's clearly not interested. But don't worry about why - it's extremely likely, being in his 40s, that he is in a relationship or married so he doesn't want to screw that up. So he's now slightly nervous and wants to avoid trouble - which means trying to avoid you. Handing out your number to attractive guys on buses is unlikely* to work, you have no idea who they are, what they're like or if they're even available to date. Surely you have other options of meeting guys available to you? *Statistically, it isn't impossible... but your strike rate is probably higher in OLD!
ExpatInItaly Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 As the others have said, he isn't interested in you. Kudos for being bold, but it doesn't mean that every man will reciprocate. 1
Author Kennybarb Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 (edited) He’s back to riding the bus again and today he parked right beside my car. [sidebar - He knows the color and make of my car because he’s seen me countless times park in the same spot and come in and out of my car]. Too soon to think into it but if he wasn’t interested he would’ve parked on the opposite side of the parking lot which he didn’t. Starting to think he’s shy cuz he stared at me the whole time on the bus. Edited February 1, 2018 by Kennybarb Spelling 1
GorillaTheater Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 He’s back to riding the bus again and today he parked right beside my car. [sidebar - He knows the color and make of my car because he’s seen me countless times park in the same spot and come in and out of my car]. Too soon to think into it but if he wasn’t interested he would’ve parked on the opposite side of the parking lot which he didn’t. Starting to think he’s shy cuz he stared at me the whole time on the bus. I wouldn't bother with trying to read signs or omens or animal entrails. If the guy was interested, he'd ask you out. There are over 2 billion adult men out there; I'd look for another one. 3
Author Kennybarb Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 I wouldn't bother with trying to read signs or omens or animal entrails. If the guy was interested, he'd ask you out. There are over 2 billion adult men out there; I'd look for another one. Hmm doubtful esp if he’s on the shy quiet side 1
GorillaTheater Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Hmm doubtful esp if he’s on the shy quiet side Then straight-up ask him out. Just don't be too invested and be prepared for any outcome. Maybe including him running away screaming. 3
stillafool Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Hmm doubtful esp if he’s on the shy quiet side Sorry but even shy guys need sex and ask women out especially when one has given him her number. If he were interested he would ask you out or at least talk to you. I think you should give your number to another guy who looks interested. 5
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 He’s back to riding the bus again and today he parked right beside my car. [sidebar - He knows the color and make of my car because he’s seen me countless times park in the same spot and come in and out of my car]. Too soon to think into it but if he wasn’t interested he would’ve parked on the opposite side of the parking lot which he didn’t. Starting to think he’s shy cuz he stared at me the whole time on the bus. I like these signs... (from your perspective) Although *tempted* may be a better term to apply. (for better or for worse...) (meant only in the context of any other irons in the fire he might have ongoing) 1
Author Kennybarb Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 Sorry but even shy guys need sex and ask women out especially when one has given him her number. If he were interested he would ask you out or at least talk to you. I think you should give your number to another guy who looks interested. True! That’s if he got the joke. Should’ve listed my name and said something like here’s my number lol
kaitlynlily6 Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Many reasons a man may not chase you after you've given your number despite you're attractive - he could be gay, attached, not interested, turned off by women making the first move etc. etc. Move on, he will come up to you if he's really interested. 1
shellybing Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 This happens to me. I will give my number to someone who chats it up on a dating app and then they will not chat anymore, or want to call. I don't understand it. They are there for dating.
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