phoenix_7 Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 You and this guy share a mutual attraction with each other. If a he tells you that he is open to whatever happens between you and him, is this good or bad? The guy is single and the gal is still in the process of divorcing her ex.
d0nnivain Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 It's not negative. It may be a sign that he wants FWB only but it also may be that he uses language casually like most people & he's trying to throw his hat in the ring without putting too much pressure on her. 1
Gaeta Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 I am open to.............. In men's language is I am open to having sex even if it leads nowhere. 3
KBarletta Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 I've used almost this exact phrasing when talking to a previous GF. I knew she was really busy and didn't have a lot of time to devote to a relationship. I also knew I would rather spend what limited free time I had with her than with someone who didn't excite me. So I basically said, I want to be with you and I'm open to whatever form that takes and whatever happens from there. At first we were kind of just FWB, but we slowly fell for each other and ended up being together for two years.
Lamartine Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 What do you want? If you are willing to have a casual relationship with him that might lead somewhere but that he's not necessarily going to try to grow into a relationship, then it's good. If you want a relationship, I would proceed with caution. You might get one, but you run the high risk of sleeping with him, becoming attached to him, and then being left by him. And he'll have the out of telling you that, in the beginning, he told you that he wanted to keep his options open. You might want to ask him to clarify his statement. If any of his reluctance is, for example, because your divorce is not final, then perhaps you have a chance with him when the legal formalities are finished. I think a lot could be read into his statement: I would pin him down on what he means and why before going forward.
d0nnivain Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 Is this the same guy who gave you a shoulder rub at your boss's event? If so he's totally telling you & everybody else who cared to see him lay hand on you that he's willing to sleep with you.
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