Feralguy Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 My wife used to play more but after 17 years (48 and I'm 55), she just lays there. All we do now is me on top. I know she gets horny but she wants me to do everything. She used to do things like get on top, etc. and even tie me up (which I love) but doesn't do anything anymore and I am frustrated with missionary sex. She doesn't understand, I guess, what is "wrong" with me. In other words, I've lost interest in just doing it, me on top, no foreplay for me. Well, she likes for me to suck her tits but again, she just lays there while I do. Boring. Now I have decided that she isn't going to a) get on top, b) dress up in sexy stuff, c) tie me up or other bondage games or d) do anything but lay there and expect me to please her. What do I do, other than screw around, which I won't do? I've even thought of going to a dominatrix but...I would feel like I am cheating and besides, it wouldn't be exciting as if my wife played the dominatrix. I am getting so frustrated.
bunnygrl07 Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Spend an evening only paying attention to her needs and ask her what else she wants. Do something to make her feel sexy and appreciated. Buy her some sextoys. Suggest something you haven't done before. Help her around the house so she has energy for bed. Maybe something outside the bedroom is bothering her.Is there something wrong in her personal life? It's a very common reason for lack of action in the bedroom. Work, family, home, activities, health? Be receptive to her answers and just listen, otherwise she might feel like she is being attacked. Don't try to solve her problems for her before she is finished speaking.
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