simpleman Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Hi everyone, I have been with my girlfriend for four months. The relationship is Long Distance, and we've never met before. In this time, I have met one of her best friends that has become a good friend of mine as well. In recent weeks, this friend has told my girlfriend and me that she likes me, brave soul, but as I belong to her bestfriend she knew she couldn't try and take me away. My girlfriend became a little jealous, but I reassured her that I loved her very much and that she had no reason to fret. This friend has become very emotionally unstable. She doesn't eat as much as I feel like she should. Sometimes she goes a few days without eating at all. I am scared for her... I tell her to eat, but she says she isn't in the mood to eat . She has admitted that one of the reasons she feels this way is because she knows she will never be with me or with a guy like me; in addition, there are other family problems such as her aunt is dying from cancer. I try to comfort her by saying she will find the right guy and he will make her the happiest person in the world and that she will forget about any feelings she had for me. She had me promise that I would always talk to her even if I break up with her bestfriend. I fear that she will never move on, and that she will always be waiting for me to break up with my girlfriend. What should I do? -- If more information or thoughts are needed from me, just ask.
Merin Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Not to make light of this.... You've been "With" your GF for 4 months, BUT you've never met AND the 2 of you are In Love Is this Friend of hers an online Friend as well?
Author simpleman Posted August 25, 2005 Author Posted August 25, 2005 haha, yes, the technicalities of LDRs. We met in May through her uncle who I have known online for six years. Our "relationship" started a few weeks after we first met, and within a week she started saying she loved me. At first, I said I told her I did not feel the same way, and she must give me some time. We spent everyday together, and we had our share of conflicts and tribulations. The reason I use "Love" now is because we have a strong bond. I do agree, it is strange to use In Love when talking about LDR of this calibur. Love is a combination of physical and emotional feelings. Obviously, we lack one over the other, but we our emotionally connected. We can only wait to see if the physical feelings are there too when/if we meet. Now that I've clarified my relationship a little more, this friend of hers, she has known her IRL for five or so years.
Merin Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Originally posted by simpleman Now that I've clarified my relationship a little more, this friend of hers, she has known her IRL for five or so years. Honestly I wouldn't worry about her IRL Friend... not that you have to be a jerk to her or anything BUT what she eats or doesn't isn't your concern, etc... Could be her IRL friend continues to tell you things that may or may not be true looking for attention from you, even if it's sympathy for her... Having a LDR with someone you've never spend any IRL time with I should think is difficult enough without adding more drama of one of her IRL friends that you also don't know.... My 3 cent's
Author simpleman Posted August 27, 2005 Author Posted August 27, 2005 Aye I think I'm just going to sit back, and let fate take it's course, for now. -_- Thanks for the advice.
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