Just weird

[ZA Dater]

If you want to attract interesting people you have to be interesting yourself, kind of. You have to know a wide variety of topics, have experiences, be able to story tell and articulate in yourself in a way that keeps others engaged.

 

What I'm seeing here is you feel you are going out with pretty girls with nothing in common with you or not enough mental connection. The reason you are getting those girls is because you are picking them off these apps for their physical appearance and because the ones who have both the physical/mental properties you desire have other options. I'm not trying to be harsh. I'm saying this because you have things you need to improve. We all do. Everyone hates that word 'improve'. Everyone thinks they've done every thing they can or that they've reached their limitations. Just no. Do you have male friends? Also I say away from Seeking Arrangement, that's like lowkey prostitution. I don't think you will find what you really want there.

 

 

 

The male friends I have, well they can get just about any lady to go on a date with them. The next more pretty than the last, whereas I have to make myself attracted to someone I don't really like, they get to choose.

 

 

I am not going out with pretty girls, that the biggest problem and they don't have any other intellectually redeeming factors either, harsh I know.

 

 

When it comes to topics I don't lack but I do lack "you know Joe or Jill went out to such and such a bar" instead for me its politics, business, literature, cars, world affairs.

 

 

Ironically seeking arrangement is the only platform where I actually have the ability to choose and yes should they be doing that sort thing, probably not but the fact someone considers it is interesting in its own right.

 

 

For the most part I have filled the dating void by keeping myself busy virtually every waking hour with something form of work or another.

[Jj66]

Law of the jungle, dude. Deal with it or don't try to date.