GTR King Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 (edited) Ok so I live in Small/Medium Town about 350 thousand people, About 1 hour 15 mins (Train) 1 hour 45 mins (Car) From London... I am 27 (28 In August) When I go to the bars/Clubs (Not very often) most of the girls are 18-23 (A Few older ones & some younger with fake id) there is only really one bar that the older ones go to (Mainly bank holidays halloween xmas etc) When I go swimming 3-5 times a week (Steam Room/Sauna after) most of the girls are 35+ (Seen a few my age not many) When I go to football (Soccer) Girls are all ages (Don't see many single ones) When I used dating apps most of the girls 25-32 are more than 20-25 miles 32-40km Away from me, (Some other side of river themes so longer distance but dating apps use distance as how birds would fly) Don't see many girls around my age near me. As they all taken or have children, It's the ones 18-23 that are single I am saving up my spare money each month, As would love to move out one day when I can afford it... (At moment can't so live at home till I can. but not for ever) I drive my own car. So any other ideas to find girls who are 25/26+ Not looking for a 18-22 year old girl Edited January 28, 2018 by GTR King
sdraw108 Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 Date in London, and just accept the distance. 1 hour 15 mins isn't so bad really. By London standards that isn't too far off a daily commute for a lot of people! I study part time in the evenings twice a week and my commute to college is just under 1 hour. Bring a book 3
basil67 Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 Back in the day, it was really common to meet people via connections in our friendship groups. Someone might hold a BBQ and a few people you hadn't met would come along and you got to meet new people that way. What's your friendship group like?
Author GTR King Posted January 28, 2018 Author Posted January 28, 2018 (edited) I don't read books.... If I went out in London It would be for trance evens E.G Armin Van Burren or Tiesto Etc I love Music Films TV Shows Football F1 Swimming Cinema Computer Games... Date in London, and just accept the distance. 1 hour 15 mins isn't so bad really. By London standards that isn't too far off a daily commute for a lot of people! Saying that my mum is dating a guy from london Edited January 28, 2018 by GTR King
sdraw108 Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 I don't read books.... If I went out in London It would be for trance evens E.G Armin Van Burren or Tiesto Well, I was referring to the fact that the girls who appear on your dating apps are in London (I assume). Arrange dates and take the train to meet them. If you don't read books, then bring a small laptop and watch a movie. Or listen to music. Or play a game on your phone. You get the idea. Also you mentioned saving up to move out. I assume you mean to a bigger city? Well, you could always be more proactive. Go and find a job in the city, so that you can afford to move straight away. It sounds like your dating life is ruled by your circumstances, but you can change those.
Author GTR King Posted January 28, 2018 Author Posted January 28, 2018 The girls are in places Like Colchester Chelmsford Southend Harwich Clacton Gravesend Sittingbourne Rochester Kent (Near River Themes) Bury St Eds Cambridge Norwich Thats where I see them hardly any near me less than 15 miles
Ami1uwant Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 You are entering the difficult years where people around your age in a smaller city have all married off. If you were in Lindon this marrying of age would be older into mid 30s. Now you are seeing cougars who have divorced or younger ones. Skip bars aND gyms and look at set up by friends or get involved in other organizations and meet people.
Author GTR King Posted January 28, 2018 Author Posted January 28, 2018 (edited) I do agree with that.. The single girls in my town who are around my age have kids etc.. I not fussed about going 20-40 miles away from me Moving out to somewhere in my home town or to the west country (Bath/Chippenham way) Dads side of then Family lives around there.. I mainly go swimming to keep fit. (Not to look for girls) Also you mentioned saving up to move out. I assume you mean to a bigger city? Well, you could always be more proactive. Go and find a job in the city, so that you can afford to move straight away. It sounds like your dating life is ruled by your circumstances, but you can change those. If I did move out from Suffolk would be near bath Edited January 28, 2018 by GTR King
SevenCity Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 I don't read books.... If I went out in London It would be for trance evens E.G Armin Van Burren or Tiesto Etc A bit off topic, but my user name is based upon my all time favorite mix from DJ Armin Van Burren I am in a slightly similar situation as you. I live in the suburbs of NYC and the women here are mostly married or have kids. I've been forced to date in NYC as a result (about an hour by train). It sucks and you'll find a lot of women don't want to date outside of the city. Since you're young, I would give consideration to moving to London. Your chances of finding a mate will increase, mate Otherwise, deal with the lack of options or expand your dating. I saw you mentioned some that were closer - a half hour to an hour is fine with me. 1
melonmint57 Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 It looks like you'll have to make the trip to London if you're looking for single girls your age. I'm the same age (28) and I've been in a similar situation living in the suburbs. While of course I would prefer 30 minutes or less travel time, I've driven as much as an hour to meet up with guys. This was after we chatted online/texted for a week or so. That way I was able to establish we had some kind of connection that left me interested in learning more about them. The only other suggestion I can offer is maybe there is a halfway point where you could arrange meeting a gal you hit it off with. I certainly would never be opposed to meeting someone halfway.
Author GTR King Posted January 29, 2018 Author Posted January 29, 2018 I love that song Seven Cities, (Armin Remix). I don’t mind travelling the distance e.g 30-80 Miles. As you will get different girls etc.
O'Malley Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 I grew up in a community of barely a thousand people, where most people were married and/or had children by their mid-twenties. No way was I going to end up dating someone from there (and I didn't, thankfully.) Can you financially and career wise afford a move closer to London? Barring that, I'd accept the commute as the price to pay to date the women that you prefer. Your best bet is meeting women at trance events/festivals.
Author GTR King Posted January 29, 2018 Author Posted January 29, 2018 Can you financially and career wise afford a move closer to London? Barring that' date=' I'd accept the commute as the price to pay to date the women that you prefer. Your best bet is meeting women at trance events/festivals.[/quote'] No I can't Financially but do have a car so I can drive to places to meet them. I am looking further but not to far
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