lioil Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 I was talking to this girl today and she said she likes to watch superbowl and i offered we could go to a bar to watch and she said yes. My questions is are there any dos/donts and should we go to a quieter bar or go for atmosphere to more people? There is a fan place that is near her but it will sure be rowdy due to tons of fans there but she did say she likes the atmosphere. Also, if she gets tired and leaves early, should i follow? we are from different locations so she will be taking uber/metro... i could offer drive her back though. Thanks!
Imajerk17 Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 (edited) The goal of a first date is to get to know each other. That's awfully hard to do in a loud crowded environment where the main attraction is something on TV. Meanwhile the Superbowl is a week out. Why not schedule the first date sooner. So my overall answer to you is: Come up w different better first date idea. Edited January 28, 2018 by Imajerk17 4
LilySun Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 If she likes the atmosphere I don't see why not. But probably every bar will be crowded for Superbowl. For the matter of talking to get to know each other that would be difficult in this situation. But could still be fun.
Casper. Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 Meet her beforehand... go do something fun where you can get to know her a bit like crazy golf or something, or alternatively get some food, but pick somewhere in walking distance of a good pub so after you can walk to the pub or bar and watch the game together! 3
d0nnivain Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 Offer her 2-3 options of where to go for the game & let her pick. She may want the party atmosphere. If she leaves & you did not arrive together, there is no obligation for you to leave too. If you have been drinking, don't drive, no matter what. Being irresponsible on a date is bad plan
Author lioil Posted January 28, 2018 Author Posted January 28, 2018 we did meet today and talked for ~3 hours during lunch. But i think it might be ideal for her to pick. The place i did suggest is walking distance to her and she doesnt have car so she probably go there but yeah choice is always good... 1
alphamale Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 for a first date take her to a place that is busy with more people. there will be more distractions and things to talk about and plus the food will probably be better.
Author lioil Posted January 28, 2018 Author Posted January 28, 2018 for a first date take her to a place that is busy with more people. there will be more distractions and things to talk about and plus the food will probably be better. I think the pats fans will be rowdy no doubt. my biggest worry is her attention span but she seemed cool with it when i thrown the idea out there so maybe it will be ok?
preraph Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 First, be sure because what if you need reservations on game day, so call the place. I would take her to the one that's rowdy. You've had your first date. SB is long, so it's long enough I wouldn't plan anything else before or after. Get tired. But wherever you go should have food, not just liquor.
d0nnivain Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 Understand the nature of this date is about fun & football. All of her attention will not be on you if she's a fan. If she's not into one of the teams, she may be less into the game.
justwhoiam Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 are there any dos/donts Make sure you get some seats, as the risk is you'd be standing or on a stool all night. Not really comfortable. Even if the night was a disaster and she likes you, everything will be fine. Are you siding with the same team? and should we go to a quieter bar or go for atmosphere to more people? Well, maybe not a place where there can be a fight and people calling the police... Also, if she gets tired and leaves early, should i follow? we are from different locations so she will be taking uber/metro... i could offer drive her back though. Definitely offer to drive her home.
d0nnivain Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 Definitely offer to drive her home. But ONLY if you have not been drinking.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 It would be ideal if you could get seats side by side as opposed to across the table from each other.
Popsicle Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 Sure if you like crowds and higher than normal expenses. Be sure you can continue to give a good first impression in the face of these things.
alphamale Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 It would be ideal if you could get seats side by side as opposed to across the table from each other. but it's harder to look into each other's eyes when you sit side by side 1
d0nnivain Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 Watching the Super Bowl together is not a date about staring into each other's eyes. Don't try to make game watching in a crowded sports bar romantic. It won't work.
alphamale Posted January 29, 2018 Posted January 29, 2018 Watching the Super Bowl together is not a date about staring into each other's eyes. Don't try to make game watching in a crowded sports bar romantic. It won't work. the eyes are the window to the soul, even on superbowl sunday 1
Iseult Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 (edited) My questions is are there any dos/donts (...) Don't talk about tight ends and slot receivers... or maybe those are dos. Edited January 30, 2018 by Iseult formatting
Author lioil Posted February 1, 2018 Author Posted February 1, 2018 Thanks for the tips. So the group is going to gather 5:30 - I might go earlier to save spot then have her come 6 or so then get some food/drinks. She doesnt know football that well but she said she has watched previous superbowls and she is into the atmosphere and commercials and halftime. I will try to explain game to her if she needs it. BTW, apparently couple of my coworkers MAY BE THERE. So if we do meet how should i react? If they say "Hi lioil, is she your girlfriend?" most likely have to say friend right.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 1, 2018 Posted February 1, 2018 Thanks for the tips. So the group is going to gather 5:30 - I might go earlier to save spot then have her come 6 or so then get some food/drinks. She doesnt know football that well but she said she has watched previous superbowls and she is into the atmosphere and commercials and halftime. I will try to explain game to her if she needs it. BTW, apparently couple of my coworkers MAY BE THERE. So if we do meet how should i react? If they say "Hi lioil, is she your girlfriend?" most likely have to say friend right. Just say, "this is our first date!" or "this is actually the first time we've hung out!" 1
Author lioil Posted February 5, 2018 Author Posted February 5, 2018 So just got home. I think it was decent outing. Mostly it was watching the game and we chatted on some rules and other stuff. I dropped her off at her place but couldnt park so she just left. I am thinking of asking her out again maybe next weekend or is it too soon? There's disney on ice coming up and she says she likes shows so maybe that? Should i try asking her specifically a date like mention the word or its implied? Also, should i do anything on V day or its too soon since we only met couple of times?
Jj66 Posted February 5, 2018 Posted February 5, 2018 So just got home. I think it was decent outing. Mostly it was watching the game and we chatted on some rules and other stuff. I dropped her off at her place but couldnt park so she just left. I am thinking of asking her out again maybe next weekend or is it too soon? There's disney on ice coming up and she says she likes shows so maybe that? Should i try asking her specifically a date like mention the word or its implied? Also, should i do anything on V day or its too soon since we only met couple of times? How old are you? How did you leave it? Was there any mention of calling her son? Did she text to make sure you got home safely? Worrying about Valentine's Day is definitely putting the cart before the horse.
OneLov Posted February 5, 2018 Posted February 5, 2018 (edited) So just got home. I think it was decent outing. Mostly it was watching the game and we chatted on some rules and other stuff. I dropped her off at her place but couldnt park so she just left. I am thinking of asking her out again maybe next weekend or is it too soon? There's disney on ice coming up and she says she likes shows so maybe that? Should i try asking her specifically a date like mention the word or its implied? Also, should i do anything on V day or its too soon since we only met couple of times? It was definitely a decent outing—the Eagles won!!! I’m not an Eagles fan, but I couldn’t stomach Brady & Co. winning another Super Bowl. Hopefully you weren’t trying to explain to her what a catch is (I don’t even know what one is anymore). I was disappointed with JT’s performance; it didn’t compare to Gaga’s halftime show last year. And wtf was he wearing? Was that an elk on his shirt? That was another wardrobe malfunction. You can say you’d like to get together again without committing to a date and time. Tell her you’ll get back to her with that. If she likes you, she’ll be game. Next weekend isn’t too soon. You don’t need to emphasize it’s a date; it’s implied. Unless you’re a couple or there’s some talk of commitment, I wouldn’t do anything for Valentines Day. Doing so will be putting unneeded pressure on her to make a commitment. Take it easy and see where it leads. Have no expectations. Keep your feet on the ground. Edited February 5, 2018 by OneLov
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2018 Posted February 5, 2018 So just got home. I think it was decent outing. Mostly it was watching the game and we chatted on some rules and other stuff. I dropped her off at her place but couldnt park so she just left. I am thinking of asking her out again maybe next weekend or is it too soon? There's disney on ice coming up and she says she likes shows so maybe that? Should i try asking her specifically a date like mention the word or its implied? Also, should i do anything on V day or its too soon since we only met couple of times? Glad you had fun. Disney on Ice sounds expensive. That may be too much. Ask her sooner than later, by tomorrow, Tuesday at least but it's OK if you don't actually get together until the weekend. Since sporty dates are working out for you, perhaps go somewhere to watch the opening of the Olympic games together. Of course you can do something for Valentine's Day just maybe not the full on romantic dinner. How about the movies . . . pick a rom-com? Do get her a little something < $10 with no mentions of love.
Author lioil Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 (edited) Well she says she will need to prep for big client demo for monday( she did mention it last time) so this weekend is most likely no go. Not sure i should keep trying to ask see a movie or something though. I did mention disney on ice for next weekend. She said she hasnt seen it and it sounds interesting. At least she didn't give objection when i said i can look at tickets for next week. But she went to bed before i could ask the time/date. I figure maybe loop back to her couple days later to find out date time? tickets usually non-refundable so... Edited February 7, 2018 by lioil
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