tolve Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 So I have this male friend. We're not bffs or anything but we live 2 blocks apart so we do hang out. Just last month we hung out at a bar where we live. Background, he is not the type of guy (I think) to have lots of female friends. I know he has a couple but they are all from college, and one who is this married woman with like 5 kids he worked with. So all not single and not on his radar if you get what I'm saying. At least two people who know us both have commented on the chemistry they see. I do find him attractive but I would need to know what is on his mind before I think that way. I have been hurt way to much in the past to think about this guy as a possibility and then get a 'nope we are just friends'. He sent me a message a couple of weeks ago saying 'long time. when are you free to hang out?' I was pretty busy and was only free last week. We arrange a day and then weirdly he asks if I will come to the centre - like 30 minutes away from me, but this is where all the party is at. We normally meet where we live coz its easy but I was like whatever, sure. I get to the city, meet him with his work buds and then we go get dinner. All this feels a bit different to me, like he is being extra attentive, walking super close to me, arms touching all that stuff. Anyways I decided all this was in my head coz during dinner he is talking about stuff and says 'oh this girl I was dating a couple of months ago says (yada yada - related to our conversation) she is really nice, probably the only girl I've really wanted to be with for a while.' He is 100 % single now so I'm guessing she dumped him. I figure 'oh he's not flirting with me coz he brings up his girl. This is just a friend dinner. Whatever, cool.' We carry on talking and then I go the ladies and when I get back he has already paid which I was taken aback by. I thanked him and he said no problem. We then go to this bar. As we walk to the bar he says 'this is my 2nd date bar.' I'm like 'Ummmmm ok!' We get to this super nice bar, spend a like an hour talking and he says again 'this is my 2nd date bar, this is the we are totally sleeping together treatment so you're getting the special' I just went 'date 2? That is way too soon!' And then he goes 'For me I get to date 2 and I'm like come on, come on.' I say 'Eeew waaaaay too soon. That's a no way Jose for me' he starts laughing and goes 'yeah I know and that is why we are not dating.' I said nothing to that. Then we talked about other other things. We traveled back to where we live together. We were sitting so close knees touching, his shoe keeps kicking mine. We get to the place where I have to walk off to get to my home and he gives me a loose (so not like holding me close or anything) hug and asks if I'll be ok and we part. Next morning he text that it was good to see me. I can't figure out what this was all about. Was he feeling out if this could be a date? Or am I reading waaaay to much into this and it was just friends hanging?
smackie9 Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 A guy doesn't go out of his way to "just hang out" with a girl, if you know what I mean. I have a feeling he was lookin to get laid or in the future....you know FWB situation. He is just beating around your bush, if you know what I mean.
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