We had to break up but we still talk, everyday

[mia251]

Me and my ex boyfriend broke up in August. So it’s been 5 months now. It was a mutual type of break up. We didn’t have a choice tbh. His family want him to marry soon or whenever to a girl from his culture. He doesn’t want but he has to... I don’t know when and I really don’t want to know either. After our break up it hurt me so much. I hated having no contact with him. I missed him so much. After a few weeks, we started talking again. He initiated it. 5 months on, we still talk more or less everyday. He told me that he wants us to stay friends. And we are. He called me his best friend. I want us to be more though. We flirt and tease each other all the time. I fall in love with him every day. I don’t want him to become anyone else’s. He’s only mine. He asked me to be his Valentine. I said yes. He told me wants us to have children and marry. How will that work if his family want him to marry someone else? He’s also getting a new apartment with his friend which doesn’t make any sense either as why would you get a new place or live if you were going to marry soon? During our relationship he never told me he loved me but he showed me and expressed it in many other ways. They other he actually told me! He calls me his girl and kisses me. I don’t know what is happening between us. My emotions are all over the place. All I know is that we love each other and we can’t stay apart. I haven’t told anyone else that we still talk because they know he hurt me and want me to stop talking to him but I can’t. They don’t understand.

Edited January 28, 2018 by mia251
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[d0nnivain]

You need to ask him how this will work with the family pressure. Some people have the ability to tell their family & traditions to take a hike. Others can't handle being cut off

 

You need to not settle for a half a loaf. It will kill you inside to watch him marry some other woman. Under those circumstances it would be masochistic & unhealthy for you to try to stay friends.

[Popsicle]

Me and my ex boyfriend broke up in August. So it’s been 5 months now. It was a mutual type of break up. We didn’t have a choice tbh. His family want him to marry soon or whenever to a girl from his culture. He doesn’t want but he has to... I don’t know when and I really don’t want to know either. After our break up it hurt me so much. I hated having no contact with him. I missed him so much. After a few weeks, we started talking again. He initiated it. 5 months on, we still talk more or less everyday. He told me that he wants us to stay friends. And we are. He called me his best friend. I want us to be more though. We flirt and tease each other all the time. I fall in love with him every day. I don’t want him to become anyone else’s. He’s only mine. He asked me to be his Valentine. I said yes. He told me wants us to have children and marry. How will that work if his family want him to marry someone else? He’s also getting a new apartment with his friend which doesn’t make any sense either as why would you get a new place or live if you were going to marry soon? During our relationship he never told me he loved me but he showed me and expressed it in many other ways. They other he actually told me! He calls me his girl and kisses me. I don’t know what is happening between us. My emotions are all over the place. All I know is that we love each other and we can’t stay apart. I haven’t told anyone else that we still talk because they know he hurt me and want me to stop talking to him but I can’t. They don’t understand.

 

Are you long distance?