mother and girlfriend help

[tkozi1]

Here is the story...I'm taking care of my 70 yr old mother...Ive been seeing this wonderful woman for about six weeks now. Ive been divorced for 11 yrs no kids...she has 2..she lives with her sister and babysits for money....(much more to story)......anyway, my mother has a hang up about her and thinks she is gonna be like my exwife...there is no comparison between the two. im the baby in the family and rest of siblings elsewhere....ive put my life on hold for a long time now, but moms health better.....so i decided its time to restart my life.....

 

 

basically what im asking is how to convince my mother she is a good woman and that im not gonna be goin anywhere soon

 

 

BTW..they have not met yet....every time i bring it up, mom asks why do i want her to meet her

[Devildog]

Thank goodness you are talking about 2 seperate people!

 

Basically I don't think you are going to have much luck convincing your Mom of anything. You are the baby of the family, you have been taking care of your Mom for some time now. She depends on you. Any woman you get interested in is going to be viewed as a threat by your Mom. Someone that could potentially take her baby and caregiver away from her. And just because her health is doing better, that doesn't mean she is getting any younger. She knows she is going to need to rely on you more and more as time passes and she continues to get older and more frail.

 

I would suggest trying to work the GF in slowly. Perhaps she can help you when you are helping your Mom? But start slow and small. And if possible, outside. Your Mom might see it as invading her personal space if she is cleaning inside or something. If there is some yard work that your GF can help with, it shows she is helpful, and isn't intruding on your Mom's world right off the bat.

[tkozi1]

i know all this...and my mom knows im not going anywhere...its just that she thinks all women are out to hurt me from my past relationships