ZA Dater Posted January 26, 2018 Posted January 26, 2018 Some facts. Went out with her once, went quite well, lot that I like She disappeared for date two and it never happened. Blocked on WhatsApp. No idea why. Yeh do I forget it and move on or try again because I think it was one of the better dates I have had. Ordinarily I wouldn't but because I see she is still on Tinder (I delete my profile every few weeks) it might be worth a go. Yay or nay?
olivetree Posted January 26, 2018 Posted January 26, 2018 You were ghosted on and blocked after one date. No, don't try again. 12
Erik30 Posted January 26, 2018 Posted January 26, 2018 How can you even try if she blocked you? It seems like you just came across her profile again when you were swiping. If you actually get a match with her a second time, you could give it a shot... but I doubt that will happen. 2
Miss Spider Posted January 26, 2018 Posted January 26, 2018 What is going on here, ZA Dater? Are you just magnetically drawn to unstable chicks who block at a moments notice like me or what? 5
RecentChange Posted January 26, 2018 Posted January 26, 2018 On thread title alone my response would be FORWARD! Its so very rare that "going back" is a positive step. I think way too many people spend too much time with their eyes glued on the rear view mirror. What ifs, I should haves, if onlys.... too much time spent re-hashing, ruminating, wishing they had a second chance. If often simply results in anxiety and paralysis, and rarely anything progressive. I say on ward! Eyes on the road ahead, what has passed, has passed. As for this particular instance - you were blocked? Thats a pretty clear statement that you should move on. 4
BaileyB Posted January 26, 2018 Posted January 26, 2018 No. This woman ghosted you and blocked you. She is not interested. 1
Imajerk17 Posted January 26, 2018 Posted January 26, 2018 (edited) Move forward. Contacting her again via Tinder after she (rather rudely too, I must say) let you know it is not a match would show quite a lack of self-respect and social intelligence on your part. Good riddance to her anyway! If I may ask, how did your first date go? As in what did you guys do Edited January 26, 2018 by Imajerk17 4
kendahke Posted January 27, 2018 Posted January 27, 2018 Some facts. Went out with her once, went quite well, lot that I like She disappeared for date two and it never happened. Blocked on WhatsApp. No idea why. Yeh do I forget it and move on or try again because I think it was one of the better dates I have had. Ordinarily I wouldn't but because I see she is still on Tinder (I delete my profile every few weeks) it might be worth a go. Yay or nay? No. Nah. Nay. Nope. Non. Nein. нет. いいえ It's not worth a go. She blocked you after one date--that means she's done with you. Move on. 3
Chilli Posted January 27, 2018 Posted January 27, 2018 Sorry buddy but you can't get a much blunter answer than her disappearing and blocking you. You've obviously got no say in the matter anyway. 1
act00 Posted January 27, 2018 Posted January 27, 2018 What is going on that you get full block after one date, repeatedly?? It makes no sense to me. You think the date is going great, but she up and blocks you, pronto. The pieces aren't coming together. Going backwards will not do you any good. I had a creepy guy who deleted and changed his profile regularly and kept contacting me with the new profile, and I blocked again...and again...and yet again. She'll do the same. People who change their profiles with such regularity are a bit shady, IMO...is there a REASON they need to change their username and profile with such regularity? So that maybe the women (men) don't recognize them? Pick a nick and stick. Change your profile description and your pictures as needed. Start a new profile if you've really made a new change in your life that is permanent and you need a fresh start. Deleting and restarting every other month is a sure sign of someone who has completely killed all prospects and has been blocked by all the matches, possibly even restricted or banned from the site due to complaints, or is flighty as he (she) deletes, starts, deletes, starts, and can't decide if they actually want to DATE...seriously, consider how this looks. I'm older, so younger folks might have a differing opinion, but wow, deleting and rejoining with a different username every 4-6 weeks or so, and re-approaching someone who blocked you because you have a different username, is on the creepy side. Look forward, not backward. 2
melonmint57 Posted January 27, 2018 Posted January 27, 2018 Time to move on! It's not worth your energy to decode the "Who, What, When, Where, How" You'll drive yourself crazy and still never make any sense of it. There are plenty of other gals you can use that energy to connect with. 1
Author ZA Dater Posted January 27, 2018 Author Posted January 27, 2018 Thanks everyone I am going to take the general consensus and move on. 3
browzer Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 Why would you possibly consider trying to contact a woman who blocked you. Do you not understand that "I am blocking you" equals "I never want to see or speak to you again"? Because that's what it means. Exactly and unequivocally. 3
lurker74 Posted January 30, 2018 Posted January 30, 2018 Went on a date once. At the end, the girl kicked me in the balls and spit on my face while I was in the fetal position. Where should I take her for date two? 2
LilySun Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 Just because you enjoyed the date doesn't mean she felt the same. There is really no bigger hint than blocking as a way to say not interested. Next... 2
Miss Spider Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 (edited) I don’t mean this as a jab to OP because he is far from the only person who has considered this...”oh maybe they’re just playing hard to get?” “Maybe I should nuke their phone, or call from a different number than the one they blocked?” It’s hard to understand, but I think when we like someone we just want that second chance so bad. We think if we just get that second chance everything might change. My ex blocked me the 2nd time I broke up with him I texted him from another number, he answered and he forgave and we got back together awhile. . So maybe there’s something to it... persistence Edited January 31, 2018 by Cookiesandough
Author ZA Dater Posted January 31, 2018 Author Posted January 31, 2018 I don’t mean this as a jab to OP because he is far from the only person who has considered this...”oh maybe they’re just playing hard to get?” “Maybe I should nuke their phone, or call from a different number than the one they blocked?” It’s hard to understand, but I think when we like someone we just want that second chance so bad. We think if we just get that second chance everything might change. My ex blocked me the 2nd time I broke up with him I texted him from another number, he answered and he forgave and we got back together awhile. . So maybe there’s something to it... persistence In this instance I will be quite honest and say the only reason I considered this is the current prospects are so bleak it was perhaps worth looking back at trying something with someone vaguely decent versus trudging through the current choices which are about as unappealing as a morning at the IRS. 2
Highndry Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 If you want to act like a bad infection that won't go away, sure!
Author ZA Dater Posted January 31, 2018 Author Posted January 31, 2018 If you want to act like a bad infection that won't go away, sure! Point taken.
Miss Spider Posted January 31, 2018 Posted January 31, 2018 In this instance I will be quite honest and say the only reason I considered this is the current prospects are so bleak it was perhaps worth looking back at trying something with someone vaguely decent versus trudging through the current choices which are about as unappealing as a morning at the IRS. I know this feeling so much...
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