Onelove Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Hi, I am 19 and am married to a guy who is Indian, but i am not i am a New Zealand Maori. We have been together for a year on the 28th August and have been married for five months.I honestly love him to death but he is always making question myself to whether he feels the same way or not. He is always telling me that he loves me and is all nice and takes care of me to. But then sometimes he is so secretive and hides things from me too that i don't know what the hell to think. He told me that he doesn't talk to girls but when i go to get his cell phone to txt or make a call most of the numbers that are on their are girls numbers and the same with his yahoo massager. He is always telling me that he likes white skinned people and also white skinned girls, but i am not white skinned i am olive and he does not realize that what he says hurts me, he thinks that i just hear it and laugh it off. I wonder to myself know if i had made the right descion marrying him and if we are meant to be together? I feel sometimes that i don't even wanna carry this relationship on but i honestly don't know what makes me stay with him all the time is that i am scared of being alone after all this time or am i just stupidly in love and can't see past it? Please if their is anyone out there who is able to help me understand what the hell to do please answer me i would really very much love to hear what advice you have got to give. Thanks alot, D.A
Forever Searching Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Have you brought up the fact to him that you know about the cell phone and the messenger? The first step I would take is confronting him about it and get an explanation. Communicate to him how you feel and if he isn't willing to change or compromise then you may have to think about whether this relationship is right for you or not.
bunnygrl07 Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 I agree. If he is being secretive you should call him on it. Explain to him that you don't feel he is being honest and thoughtless. His words and actions are hurting you. If he thinks this behavior is okay, then you have some serious thinking to do about that relationship
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