Flaky Guy

[LoverOfDance]

Hi guys, so I need some advice with this guy. I met him online. We haven't met in real life and we haven't really spoken much either. I asked him to meet up because I wanted to talk and get to know him in person. He flaked yesterday and has flaked again today. I honestly couldn't even read his excuse. It was too long. Something about his brother and his house blah blah blah.

 

He apologized saying he's sorry about the situation. I'm not getting a good vibe from him to be honest due to the flakiness. He doesn't seem serious. What do you guys think?

[basil67]

Next........

[SevenCity]

Speaking as a guy, if I’m really interested in a woman my brother would have to have died or be in the hospital for me to break a date.

[I'veseenbetterlol]

Next........

 

I 2nd this! These kind of guys are not worth your time.

[Happy Lemming]

Next........

 

I agree...

 

Unless I'm in a coma, I can usually re-arrange my schedule to make a date.

 

What are we talking an hour or two...

[Zahara]

Yes, he's not serious. Next. When someone is interested in you, they'll show you.

[mortensorchid]

He's not that into you. Move on. It's a lame excuse no matter what it is or isn't. He's telling you other things are priority despite the excuses and he'll let you down in other ways as well. You're done.

[Maggie4]

Maybe it's a 13 year old boy playing online.

[Highndry]

Speaking as a guy, if I’m really interested in a woman my brother would have to have died or be in the hospital for me to break a date.

 

Exactly. When we're interested, we make every effort possible to be there.

[Highndry]

Maybe it's a 13 year old boy playing online.

 

That's one of the concerning things about the internet - you never know what sort of shenanigans are going on.

[act00]

Yep, I agree, move on. First of all, if his life is this busy and hectic, he has no business being online seeking dates and relationships. Even if these excuses are reasonable, do you really want to be with a guy whose life has so much drama and so much crap going on that it's leading him in six different directions?

 

He's not interested, he's toying with you (and other women), wants a pen pal, likes the idea of dating but can't actually do the dating, he has other prospects filling in his dating sphere...whatever...the point is, you are not it, and you've extended yourself twice. The next one is on him, and don't hold your breath that that will happen, but if it does, at least plan some errands in case he stands you up, so the trip isn't a total loss. Absolutely do not attach your hopes or affection to him...he's "busy."

 

Hint taken...drop the rope.

[TaxMan]

My experience is that when people treat you like this right off the bat - and you accept it - the disappointment only grows. You could go through weeks or months where things are fine, but then eventually there's going to be more disappointment later. And the more time you invest, the more emotional things get, the greater the disappointment will be down the road. And because you let it slide the other times, it's on you the next time.

 

You're better off just moving on.

[smackie9]

If the guy doesn't ask you by the 3 message...dump the chump.