Valentine's is almost here. Need suggestions

[njoe755]

hello everyone.. need help as i dont know what to do.. my girl got pissed last week because i havent done something she asked for.. and now its a week gone and we have not seen each other. So i want to know what should i do for her at this valentine's day so she forget everything?

[grays]

You cant wait three weeks to deal with that. Don't let negative feelings linger that long.

[todreaminblue]

what you should do is talk to her...and asap......beats presents in three weeks..........showing you care by listening.....do it in person face to face......leave your mobile at home.....turn off any tv and make it about you and her....deb

[basil67]

Why didn't you do the thing she asked for? Serious question.

[Miss Spider]

my girl got pissed last week because i havent done something she asked for..

 

Why haven't you done it yet? xD

[act00]

What did she ask you to do, and why didn't you do it? Was what she asked you to do a reasonable request?

 

Waiting until VDay is not the way to go. Deal with the issue now. You can still romance her on VDay.

 

I'm guessing it won't make her forget. Whatever the issue is, it could gloss over but won't go away and will resurface, probably two-fold. If she's asking you to do something completely unreasonable, there needs to be some discussion about this and perhaps a compromise if feasible. If it's something you cannot accomplish as quickly as she wants, again, some discussion is warranted. Sweeping it under the rug and showering her with gifts is just a temporary fix.

[njoe755]

i am gonna talk to her asap. n yeah i think i have to listen.. but some things are not just okay do it. things do go unreasonable sometimes.

[d0nnivain]

Nothing you can do on Valentine's Day will make her forget why she's mad at you.

 

Forget the presents & candy. What she really wants is for you to improve communication. If she asks you to do something & you agree to do it, keep your work. If she asks you to do something & you already know it's unreasonable, can't be done or goes against your values, talk to her about it at the time she asks & explain why you can't / won't do what she asked. What is causing your problem is that you apparently said you would do this think but you don't want to or don't have time. She relied on you & you let her down.

[njoe755]

Well thankyou all for your help. i managed to see her and convinced her to talk. things aint got the best but sure it got much better then before, atleast she listened to me and understood :)