hissy fits

[darkmoon]

For me, they are a big red flag. Way too hostile. Never again go near somebody who issues one of these at you. Game over.

 

More than once in my life, I learned the hard way that they signify disgust and that is all downhill sooner or later, so you might as well bail early and save time.

 

Do you agree?

[preraph]

Well, they demonstrate a lack of control of oneself, that's for sure.

[Happy Lemming]

My girlfriend has her little "hissy fits" all the time. It just means she is having some anxiety about something unrelated. I just remind her its time to take a klonopin.

 

One day she went complete ape poop about my couch, demanding I go out and buy a new one (which I didn't)... One klonopin and a nice dinner later. She forgot all about my worn couch and life was back to normal.

[gbe2015]

My girlfriend has her little "hissy fits" all the time. It just means she is having some anxiety about something unrelated. I just remind her its time to take a klonopin.

 

One day she went complete ape poop about my couch, demanding I go out and buy a new one (which I didn't)... One klonopin and a nice dinner later. She forgot all about my worn couch and life was back to normal.

 

Honestly, that sounds horrible. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where my partner could go off at any moment triggered over something I have no clue about. People like that need to adult and learn to control their emotions.

[SevenCity]

Agree. I've never experienced hissy fits like I have since I started OLD.

 

And oh man there were some doozies.

 

Once I get one, the "sex only" label gets slapped on and the countdown to breakup begins. It's usually about 3-4 weeks.

[grays]

Im not sure. Maybe depends on what you mean by "hissy fit." If its over some trivial thing like the couch example that seems like it could be a red flag if it's happening repeatedly, especially.

 

I don't generally throw hissy fits, BUT Ive been seeing someone for about five months now and I think Ive had like 3 small fits at him. It's happening because we don't get a lot of time together and there are serious things we need to address that really bother me when we're not together. So this frustration builds up but most of the time I don't want to use our time together to be serious like that so I push it aside until I lose control a little. I could imagine him calling it a hissy fit, but I have legitimate concerns.

 

I don't think any time your partner gets upset is a red flag. But throwing fits over trivial things or just to get attention or because things aren't *perfect* might be. And if you sense that it's about disgust, then yikes!

[darkmoon]

Im not sure. Maybe depends on what you mean by "hissy fit." If its over some trivial thing like the couch example that seems like it could be a red flag if it's happening repeatedly, especially.

 

I don't generally throw hissy fits, BUT Ive been seeing someone for about five months now and I think Ive had like 3 small fits at him. It's happening because we don't get a lot of time together and there are serious things we need to address that really bother me when we're not together. So this frustration builds up but most of the time I don't want to use our time together to be serious like that so I push it aside until I lose control a little. I could imagine him calling it a hissy fit, but I have legitimate concerns.

 

I don't think any time your partner gets upset is a red flag. But throwing fits over trivial things or just to get attention or because things aren't *perfect* might be. And if you sense that it's about disgust, then yikes!

 

so you find it impossible to talk without some hissing?

does the hiss improve his response to you?

does he object to them?

anything else?

Edited January 24, 2018 by darkmoon

[grays]

I don't generally find it impossible to talk without hissing. But normally I talk about stuff as it comes up. I'm not shy. This has been hapoening lately because these issues have been really weighing on me and I havent had the opportunity to talk about them. So by the time I do, Im just too frustrated.

 

He doesn't actually object to them but he does tease me a bit about it, has jokingly called me a bully a couple of times. And, to his credit, he actually responds pretty well. Truth be told, he completely deserves whatever I can dish out, which is probably why he handles it as well as he does.

[todreaminblue]

nope i disagree....i can have a hissy fit...if someone is really disrespecting me and i have taken blows way way too long.......doesnt mean im unbalanced...well yeah maybe i am....do you have any chocolate?..i am on a diet and people are hiding their chocolate from me......deb

[Arieswoman]

dark moon,

I'm not sure what you mean by a "hissy fit"?

 

I'm getting pictures of a toddler in a supermarket lying on the floor between the rows of shelves, screaming, crying and kicking the ground because they'd can't have a choc bar/candy.

 

Is that what you mean?

[GemmaUK]

dark moon,

I'm not sure what you mean by a "hissy fit"?

 

I'm getting pictures of a toddler in a supermarket lying on the floor between the rows of shelves, screaming, crying and kicking the ground because they'd can't have a choc bar/candy.

 

Is that what you mean?

 

Aside from actually lying on the floor in public, that is what a hissy fit means to me.

I did actually experience one guy throw himself onto a bed once whilst he was having a tantrum - he was in his early forties.

The reason he had the hissy fit was we were mid conversation (a convo that had been going on for about 2 hours), not about anything serious or anything and we were in a hotel room. I got up, walked 4ft to the dressing table in plain view of him to grab my handbag and he went nuts about me moving. He had been on his feet for a while back and forth doing things so I didn't see anything wrong with what I did.

He told me that I should have asked permission to move.

 

I got into trouble again later that day for standing up and going 2ft in clear view to the next table in a beer garden to grab the salt and pepper for us from an empty table. He didn't throw himself around that time but did go ballistic at me again for moving and not asking permission to move.