NewPageTurner Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 I've seriously debated sharing this on here for weeks. I'm going to be 100% forward with this topic, and I'll be honest I'm embarrassed to do so, as well as deeply saddened I feel the need to. Any replies or insight.. I just ask that I not be condemned or made fun of, what I'm doing is difficult enough.. here goes. My ex and I broke up in May of 2017. That's when she moved out. After 3 years of being together. We kept seeing each other in a hot and cold fashion up until November. We still texted, talked, argued, sexted and slept with each other. December 1st she basically just gave up. Cold. Done. We had a final goodbye and we haven't spoken since. She's blocked me on all methods of communication. So here's why I'm writing this.. I haven't let go. I miss her. So damn much that it sickens me. I've grieved and cried for weeks, faked it and gone on dates with other girls, even slept with a couple of them, but I'm still stuck on her ..she was my all. We were best friends. We lived together for over 2 years and during our relationship we made a lot of private videos and pictures. I've saved every single sext photo she's ever sent me in my cloud storage. I use masturbation as a coping high. I'm embarrassed to say it but I need insight here so please be kind. I'm hurting myself I know. It's one thing to watch pornography online, but I stay glued to our old videos. The worst part is... I sometimes cry after I orgasm to them. Like I said, I'm completely embarrassed. I feel broken. I'm hurting myself and I know I'm in some weird stage of denial. She doesn't want me or miss me, and it kills me. I masturbate religiously after work and before bed. Sometimes at work and public places...its like I truly need the high to cope. I can't keep doing this.. Any thoughts on how I can break this pattern and grow into a healthier man?
Mr. Lucky Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Any thoughts on how I can break this pattern and grow into a healthier man? Pretty sure this isn't what you want to hear, but the first thing I'd do would be to delete/destroy the videos and sexts. A couple good reasons - it's the honorable thing to do and your current obsession with them is preventing you from moving forward. And then I'd bury myself in something - work, hobbies and/or exercise, anything to occupy my mind and body. Your wounds are still fresh. Not sure how continuing to pour salt in them helps you. Keep posting... Mr. Lucky 2
Happy Lemming Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 The worst part is... I sometimes cry after I orgasm to them. In addition to what was posted above, I would be worried that 'crying after orgasm" may become normal to your brain. Do you really want to cry after you orgasm once you are with someone new?? I hate to think that this could become a habit. I'd also hate to see you get caught at work or worse in public. Is it a sex crime to be doing that in public, where you live?? 1
health Posted March 11, 2018 Posted March 11, 2018 I've seriously debated sharing this on here for weeks. I'm going to be 100% forward with this topic, and I'll be honest I'm embarrassed to do so, as well as deeply saddened I feel the need to. Any replies or insight.. I just ask that I not be condemned or made fun of, what I'm doing is difficult enough.. here goes. My ex and I broke up in May of 2017. That's when she moved out. After 3 years of being together. We kept seeing each other in a hot and cold fashion up until November. We still texted, talked, argued, sexted and slept with each other. December 1st she basically just gave up. Cold. Done. We had a final goodbye and we haven't spoken since. She's blocked me on all methods of communication. So here's why I'm writing this.. I haven't let go. I miss her. So damn much that it sickens me. I've grieved and cried for weeks, faked it and gone on dates with other girls, even slept with a couple of them, but I'm still stuck on her ..she was my all. We were best friends. We lived together for over 2 years and during our relationship we made a lot of private videos and pictures. I've saved every single sext photo she's ever sent me in my cloud storage. I use masturbation as a coping high. I'm embarrassed to say it but I need insight here so please be kind. I'm hurting myself I know. It's one thing to watch pornography online, but I stay glued to our old videos. The worst part is... I sometimes cry after I orgasm to them. Like I said, I'm completely embarrassed. I feel broken. I'm hurting myself and I know I'm in some weird stage of denial. She doesn't want me or miss me, and it kills me. I masturbate religiously after work and before bed. Sometimes at work and public places...its like I truly need the high to cope. I can't keep doing this.. Any thoughts on how I can break this pattern and grow into a healthier man? If it's a huge problem. Try not to watch old vids. Personally sometimes I watch videos my exes and me did cause they are hot. It was a good time in my life. In our 20s. Id regret it if I deleted that part of my history. I used to feel bad about it. I really don't care now. Im single. If I had a relationship and it was great I may delete them. Good luck
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted March 12, 2018 Posted March 12, 2018 I'd destroy them simply out of respect for your ex. When my exH and I were splitting, I destroyed the ONE video we had made together. He was SO angry with me when he found out....I was like, "ew! Why would you want to keep that!???" I did NOT want him to have that in his possession! I think you are violating your ex every time you watch the videos/look at the pics, to be honest.
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