pantsito Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 My girlfriend and i broke up in august after being together for 5 months ,because i was jealous about my best friend flirting with her and believing she liked too ...about one month after the break up i was devastated and i was talking about my feelings to this friend and he always was telling me that ''i don't have to worry ,she is a bitch ,and don't get so sad etc...then one night i decided to stalk my ex girlfriend and i saw her entering my friend's house around 4.30 am ...I was so devastated about the betrayal of my best friend and my ex that i wanted to commit suicide ...the days passed by and i told some other friends that i saw her entering his house at night and all that he was saying me was lies....after that about a month ago my ex called me to get together ,and i like a fool went at her house ...when we talked about how many lies she said to me and that i saw her entering in my best friends house ,she refused it big time...So i gave her a second chance and we were together again secretly for a month and a half ,until she went at christmas to her parents for holidays ...we were very good in this 1 and a half month ,until i learned that y best friend went secretly in the same city she went...and when i told her on the phone she just broke up with me for silly reasons like ''i am tired ,nothing is happening with your friend ,you are so jealous of him,i never went to his house etc...so she came back and i decided to stalk again and guess what ...i saw her 2 weeks ago entering his house AGAIN afternoon .... The thing is she played e so much and my best friend too ....she played with my emotions and my head ,and i can find a reason why really ....now she is with him secretly..and i am alone with no friends because nobody believed me when i told them that they are together ....i am so devastated thinking all the tie y ex sleeping with y best friend and i am left alone like the crazy ex boyfriend who is delusional and all that stuff...i don't know what to do really .....sorry for my bad english
Young mind Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Mate, you need to break this cycle you're in, take back control of your life and emotions, these are not the type of people you need in your life, so break this offans try to move on. Quit the stalking, force yourself, there are so many things that can go wrong if you continue, you might end up with the police , and your excuse is not gonna be LOVE. Accept the fact that she's just one of the numerous women you will meet in your life, you only choose those that stay, break this off while you still can
Author pantsito Posted January 23, 2018 Author Posted January 23, 2018 i tried to just it go ...until she came back to me ...and she showed me that she is really in love with me for this one and a hlaf month we were togther secretly..she wanted to reveal it after christmas ,she bought me gifts ,made plans for the summer and all of that ...she eas messaging me all day long that she misses me and can't wait to meet up at night ...and then ...bam all over again ...i feel she came back only for make me believe that she wasn't dating my best friend like i saw and nothing ever happened ....i was so wrong to take her back but i am so sad thinking that alla of these words she said and the everyday sex we had ,were only for defend my best friend ...she ruined my self esteem completely...he was acting he is my best friend only to sleep with her at nights ...i can't cope thinking she just did these things with no emotion at alla only to make her believe she is not a slut...i just want him to feel the same in his life to see how it feels ....i now doubt for myself for sort of things ...like am i beaytifull enough ??was i good at sex like she told me?am i clever enough ??? or she chose him because he is better at all these??? i just want to tell you that he only had a girlfriend in his life and i have had much more thats why i can't cope with that ...she is beautifull and he is ugly....another thing is that all her friends and my friends took their side and they don't believe he and she have an affair...they just believe i am delusional ....and now in this small town they partying and laughing all the time and i am alone working and sleeping only ....dont want anything to do ....don't have the energy to think about things ...only for her and for him how they played with me without thinking that they ruined a guys life and soul...by the way i am 29 and she is 22
CantTakeMySmile Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Please do not engage with either of these two people again. There are not your friends. 2
Author pantsito Posted January 23, 2018 Author Posted January 23, 2018 i know they are not my friends...but i cannot just forget what i am going through and feel like never happened...a friend of 13 years of me betrayed me and my ex girlfriend the same ..i cannot believe she never had feelings for me and this was just a game ...it is unfair for me ...i just can't sleep at nights alone thinking they sleeping together and laughing at me .it is so difficult for me ...i don't know what to do anymore ...and its more difficult because the town we are living its small and unfortunatelly i bump to her or to him all the time ...and i just can't get out because i lefta alone
Highndry Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 How she and your "friend" treated you is not ok. However, you are stalking, and that's almost worse. It's very, very concerning. Get some help if you need, because stalking people is scary stuff.
Author pantsito Posted January 27, 2018 Author Posted January 27, 2018 i really know that she treated me so crappy and my ''friend'' also ...the problem i am going through is that she destroyed my self esteem making me thinking all day that if she returned to me only to make me believe that my friend and she weren't sleeping together and when she realized that i will not change my mind after seeing her in his house ,then she dumped me and went back to him .I know it sounds stupid but it isn't because ican't cope with the situation i am going through..every day i am questioning myself like ... is he so good at sex that my girlfriend did all this just to be with him,even secretly ? why tell me so many lies instead of breaking up with me and going with my friend? all the things she said ''i love you so much'' ''you are the best sex ever'' ''i see you and my heart melts '' ''i miss you so much baby'' ''i want to be with you '' ''do you think i am slut to sleep with your best friend ?'' ..All these thoughts make me feel like zero ...i made the mistake to get back with her only to realize it was a plan and nothing else ...maybe all the time we had sex not only she didn't like it ,but maybe deep inside she was feeling gross for me ...that's the thoughts i am going through everyday , and there they are ****ing each other ,talking about me and laughing at me and going out like nothing is happening between them so all the people i used to hang out ,they hang out with them ...why she did all of these things...was ever real emotions for me ?was i a good love partner as she was saying to me ?why she didnt stay with me as she said ? i am not an ugly guy really but the ''friend'' is ...i can't find any other reason dumping me but better sex with him ...and now they mocking me ,i am sure of it, with their friends reading my messages with her and laughing...it is so sick the situation and i cannot find a solution ...i don't even know how am i gonna react if i see them hanging out together some day ...sorry for my bad english ...
Author pantsito Posted January 27, 2018 Author Posted January 27, 2018 Anyone with some advice how to cope with this situation??? i have really difficulty finding girls in this town ...anyone who had similar experience??i don't know but i feel i am in deep **** .Feeling that i am useless in all manners
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