Its_mee999 Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 So me and this girl who I work with have been talking to each other for a few weeks everyday all day, but today she told me that she wants to take things slow and things are good how they are at the moment. I find her very hard to read as one minute she is say I g she misses me and thinks I'm sweet but the next it's one word answers or don't reply... I'm confused as to what to do?? Even at work she hugs my good bye and talks to me but she flirts with other guys aswell. She's had one bad relationship in the past and is cautious and don't trust people. What should I do I really like her but when I asked her she just said she thinks I'm sweet and does like me a little.
basil67 Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Sounds like she's just playing games. Personally, I would not bother with a hot and cold, take it slow person who has trust issues.
Miss Spider Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 hot and cold take it slow people with trust issues need love too You guys text all day every day?? Maybe she doesn't answer or she gives one word replies because her thumb needs a break. 1
PegNosePete Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 she flirts with other guys There's your answer. She doesn't want to take things any further with you until she has played the field as a single woman a bit more. But she wants you to wait around while she does it. 2
Chilli Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Yeah , exactly what l thought. She's obviously enjoying the other guys soooo, unfortunately there ya have it in a nutshell sorry. Don't be her pack mule eh.
DKT3 Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 My guess would be multiple guys on the roster. You can't read her because she is sending you mixed signals. When she is engaged it's likely slow with the other guy(s) and vice versa. I would not disqualify her just yet, after all she is doing what a young lady in her position should do, fishing to see what's the best fish to put in the boat. If you don't mind competition, you could simply match her energy. That means when she engages you be open but when she pulls back door not push. OR. Just move on. What you would be foolish in doing is assuming that because you guys flirt Abit that she has pulled herself out of the dating game. A mistake so many young men make. Until you define the relationship assume she is doing the same with others, which in all honesty she should be, as should you.
Logo Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 I’m not trying to be harsh, but if after a few weeks of communicating daily all she could muster is “I think you’re sweet and I like you a little”, well, that would give me pause. You say she flirts with others at work? Have you guys been intimate? 1
basil67 Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 hot and cold take it slow people with trust issues need love too . I'm sure they do. But I wouldn't choose to date someone who's issues make relationships unnecessarily complicated. 1
Author Its_mee999 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Posted January 23, 2018 We haven't been intimate and she changes the subject when I ask about hanging put she has confused me alot but has told me that she won't hurt me... ?¿ should I ask her if she's talking to other people? 1
todreaminblue Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 We haven't been intimate and she changes the subject when I ask about hanging put she has confused me alot but has told me that she won't hurt me... ?¿ should I ask her if she's talking to other people? be straight up with her ask her on a date...ask her for a day and time that suits her..... if she messes you around ...its time for you to get some distance and not text her all the time....let her know that you would like to take it slow but you have been talking for a couple of weeks that's ample time to get together for a simple public date.. if she says no to a date with a day and time that suits her........you really do have your answer......good luck...deb 1
Author Its_mee999 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Posted January 23, 2018 I have asked before and she just said maybe... but the day before I asked we was talking about how she would tell her mum about me and how she won't hurt me if I don't hurt her. I'm beginning to think she's just stringing me along...
PegNosePete Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Maybe means no. You need to forget her and move on. She isn't interested in dating you. Just a bit of office banter to keep her amused and her ego inflated. 1
Author Its_mee999 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Posted January 23, 2018 Maybe means no. You need to forget her and move on. She isn't interested in dating you. Just a bit of office banter to keep her amused and her ego inflated. That's what I'm thinking!!
Jacob_Duluoz Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Games. I think you should put the question to her bluntly and then be done with it.
Author Its_mee999 Posted January 23, 2018 Author Posted January 23, 2018 I done it she said when she's not busy we can hang out.... I said back that we should talk face to face more instead of over messages she agreed that she will try and ring me when she's alone at home.... I guess she don't want her sister to make fun and she said I'm her favourite person and she really likes me and is just scared that I will hurt her and that e eryine in work will find out and get involved which they do!! Till girls gossip loads she's also said she won't intentionally hurt me and promised
FastHands Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 IMHO If she's your gf then she shouldn't be flirting with other guys. That's not a good sign.
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