Shanex Posted January 22, 2018 Posted January 22, 2018 LS, Its been a bit over two months I have been single.. yesterday morning I messaged a woman a tad older, 41 (I'm turning 34 in March) and the conversation went very well. At my surprise she quickly suggested a date for today! Really engaging, she know better: its best to meet someone asap rather than fantasizing behind a screen for weeks on end. She was right. So this evening, we met up for a first date for a drink. No catfish, on time, really nice person for a first impression. She laughed, I listened to her, talked a bit. And of course driving back home, I was wondering what did she think of me. The reply has been quick and pretty reassuring. She enjoyed her time, a lot! This time its my turn to suggest a date, this Saturday evening. Low key: a movie and the same pub. Good enough. I didn't kiss her, only on the cheek, no need to move super fast. I paid for both drink though that's probably irrelevant. Best date since being single again. I know its only been two months but I feel good about this. No bad vibes. We are both enthused, its not that hard but require some patience. Have a good week, people. Make your next date light hearted, be kind and witty, smart and you won't be much lonely in 2018. Cheers. 12
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 22, 2018 Posted January 22, 2018 Way to go-o-o-o-o, Shanex! Nice to read some good relationship/dating news on LS! 2
Crazyalex84 Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Congratulation! It is refreshing to read positive things and successful stories! I wish you the best and don't forget to give us some news 2
todreaminblue Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 congrats shanex...so good to read positivity....i wish you well...deb
Author Shanex Posted January 28, 2018 Author Posted January 28, 2018 Many thanks! So as an update, this is how the second date yesterday panned out: Drove the 45 minutes to her place to pick her up and do what we have been waiting for all week, going to the movie. A comedy. I had a secret plan to touch her hand before the movie but she anticipated the gesture and we kissed a bit while trying to follow this not so interesting flick. Then we got out, the pub was on the other side of the streets. Had a drink for each and charcuterie, salad. She paid for the movie, and I paid for the appetizers and drinks in the pub. Seems fair. Another surprise was her suggesting coffee at her place and visit a bit. She lives in a decent appartement, pretty neat too. Ahh, I am aware that I might get some flaks for this but we ended up sleeping together and have protected sex. I know some here are maybe more conservative about this and sleeping on second date does seem early. So we woke up very early for more sex. And later in the morning drove back home and left her a text thanking her for the hospitality, and the movie. Its now Sunday and I haven't much to do. I will rest a bit. All this sounds pretty good to me. 8
FilterCoffee Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 Congrats on the awesome second date! And later in the morning drove back home and left her a text thanking her for the hospitality. That cracked me up 6
CptInsano Posted January 28, 2018 Posted January 28, 2018 Many thanks! Drove the 45 minutes to her place to pick her up and do what we have been waiting for all week, going to the movie. A comedy. I had a secret plan to touch her hand before the movie but she anticipated the gesture and we kissed a bit while trying to follow this not so interesting flick. [...] I might be stereotyping a little bit, but once I started seeing women in the 40+ age bracket I noticed that they seem to very much know what they want and aren't particularly shy about it. Maybe it's experience or that they don't want to waste time, I really don't know. I'm glad that it worked out for you, and please enjoy your day of rest. 2
Author Shanex Posted January 28, 2018 Author Posted January 28, 2018 I might be stereotyping a little bit, but once I started seeing women in the 40+ age bracket I noticed that they seem to very much know what they want and aren't particularly shy about it. Maybe it's experience or that they don't want to waste time, I really don't know. I'm glad that it worked out for you, and please enjoy your day of rest. I think you are right. Women past 40 know what they want, and do not want. They are a bit more forward to make men understand that they like them. She is not the first woman over 40 I am dating.
Author Shanex Posted February 5, 2018 Author Posted February 5, 2018 An update, well that's actually something I forgot to mention before in this thread but she has a 9 yo boy. No, that didn't ''put me off'' but of course she is waiting a bit before telling her son there is a new guy in her life. No, I am not afraid of a relationship with a mother of one. I won't be his dad anyway since she is still in touch with his father and ex-hubby. There are on good terms, for the better. I don't think either she will introduce me to her son before many months. She wants someone steady and reliable and hopefully I will be this guy. Aside from that, next date this Friday for restaurant and maybe going out Saturday morning before I head back home. Also, Valentine's Day is approaching fast and I already bought her something. The very day of Valentine I will offer it to her. Thanks to those who replied, and *liked*. 7
winny Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 Also, Valentine's Day is approaching fast and I already bought her something. The very day of Valentine I will offer it to her. That's thoughtful...!! I hope it works out for you. It makes me so happy when people find someone great... 2
Miss Spider Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 This is soooooo sweet!!!! It's always good to hear a nice story on here for a change and seems like things are progressing really well. Happy for you. 1
mrs rubble Posted February 6, 2018 Posted February 6, 2018 Lovely, good for you!! What did you get her for valentines day?
heavenonearth Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 Nice, personally I dont think the age difference is a big deal(unless you want kids). My boyfriend's brother is 32 and his girlfriend is 45, so that's quite an age difference. Unfortunately they cannot have kids anymore, but they got a cat.
Author Shanex Posted February 7, 2018 Author Posted February 7, 2018 Lovely, good for you!! What did you get her for valentines day? A small gift as its really a new relationship: Two mugs, one has "Mr" with a moustache written on it, the other "Miss" with what appears to be kissing red lips. About $15. Of course it's for her place and when we will be taking breakfasts together. 3
mrs rubble Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 A small gift as its really a new relationship: Two mugs, one has "Mr" with a moustache written on it, the other "Miss" with what appears to be kissing red lips. About $15. Of course it's for her place and when we will be taking breakfasts together. Cool. Good thinking.
olivetree Posted February 7, 2018 Posted February 7, 2018 A small gift as its really a new relationship: Two mugs, one has "Mr" with a moustache written on it, the other "Miss" with what appears to be kissing red lips. About $15. Of course it's for her place and when we will be taking breakfasts together. Moving your mug in... that's a big step Seriously though, this gift would scare me. But it's sweet and you two move way faster than I do!
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