Molly-4 Posted January 22, 2018 Posted January 22, 2018 So I'm almost 26 and I broke up with my long term boyfriend 9 months ago. We were together almost 7 years but it was a rocky relationship that I should've walked away from many years ago. But we have a 4 year old daughter which made me stick around longer than I should've done. I'm starting to feel down at the moment and realising I wasted a lot of years on the wrong person, when I could've been meeting the right one. I've tried tinder. But I just don't see how you can feel a spark over messages and know who to meet up with. So I don't really talk to anyone on there. I liked someone I've known a while and spoke to them but he doesn't seem interested anymore. So where do I meet people?! I'm a very shy person. And my hobbies are horses (girly hobby) and drawing which is a home, by myself hobby as it's becoming my part time work. And I don't have time to take up anything else. Being single in my own little bubble is starting to get at me and I'm feeling like I'm just not good enough and not pretty enough. I also don't have a huge amount of friends either so don't get out much... 1
George9 Posted January 22, 2018 Posted January 22, 2018 Try to join some meet ups on Meetup.com or find some events on Facebook that requires some type of socializing.
Fair Posted January 22, 2018 Posted January 22, 2018 I'm in this situation exactly, and I don't necessarily recommend dating sites. You could sit on there for months, years... it's not the quick fix we often want. I'm a big believer that life isn't online... it's 'out there'. You have to start just going out in public, being around people. If you're young you've got another advantage. Go out and be accessible enough and you'll meet someone. Being shy and isolated will eventually ruin your life if you let it. You have to fight it. 3
smackie9 Posted January 22, 2018 Posted January 22, 2018 At work, but I don't mean dating coworkers. You socialize with people you work with and then you meet their friends and so on.....it's called networking...there will be someone you may run into that you like, start a conversation, and ask them out on a date. 1
Author Molly-4 Posted January 22, 2018 Author Posted January 22, 2018 At work, but I don't mean dating coworkers. You socialize with people you work with and then you meet their friends and so on.....it's called networking...there will be someone you may run into that you like, start a conversation, and ask them out on a date. I work part time in a hotel which is a very sociable job and I have met a good friend through it. We do go out when we can but being a single working mum its hard to sort out regularly going out.
d0nnivain Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Try taking an art class. Visit museums. See if you can find a riding meet up group. If they still have them go to a parents without partners meeting / social. Consider volunteering somewhere doing something you care about. It's easier to come out of your shell when you have a purpose.
Miss Spider Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Rock climbing gyms. If you don't know what you're doing or what route people are happy to help you Plus everyone's attractive.
FastHands Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 IMHO Anywhere you go out, Go out with a female friend be Lightly flirty with others. If they like your personality then maybe you'll get a # or give your #. Play the calling game and try to get to know the other guy More before a date and during a date. It's kinda long road but we'll all make it.
alphamale Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Try to join some meet ups on Meetup.com or find some events on Facebook that requires some type of socializing. indeed...meetup.com is the way to go
mortensorchid Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Meetups are good things to get to meet people with. No matter what it's all about, you're bound to find SOMEONE who also shares the same interests as you. Anything that gets you to interact with people is a good thing. Art classes and riding clubs would have people there, and not all women either. As long as you're not doing anything that is specifically girly like joining a book club where they read The Bridges of Madison County and the like. The internet? People use it because it's the most convenient thing to use and it comes into your home. Remember it's useful to be sure, it's still a relatively recent form of technology, but it's not what you use to replace human interaction. 1
rightondude Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 bars. or art class. or the gas station. You're a woman. If you're somewhat put together (actually at a bar that won't even matter), some dude is gonna try talking to you. You will meet someone. Now you just have to decide if it's someone you wanna meet. Just put yourself out there. Smile at guys you like. That's all you gotta do. NOTE: advice coming from a 40 year old divorced man who has no clue what a 26 year old woman needs to do to meet someone right.
Interstellar Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 Try steakhouses. I went to one by Times Square; really nice old school cool vibe. My kind of place. It has a bar where a bunch of dudes hang out or you can just order something at the dining table every Friday or something, become a regular there, and eventually some dude will notice you always alone. You can always pull the “Oh, I love the steak and creamed spinach here excuse”, then you don’t come off as desperate.
staggerlee71 Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 man I wish I was 26 again. I was so into my life you would have had to punch me in the face to let me know you were interested. looking back, there were so many. my point....live your life, do what you do, just pay attention to those who show signs of interest because it happening always. Then, have the bravery to open up to allow that person the opportunity to meet you
d0nnivain Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 So where do I meet people?! I'm a very shy person. And my hobbies are horses (girly hobby) and drawing which is a home, by myself hobby as it's becoming my part time work. And I don't have time to take up anything else. . I also don't have a huge amount of friends either so don't get out much... There in lies the crux of your problem. You think you don't have time. If dating is a priority for you, you will make the time. Yes, that is harder with a 4 year old but you could take your child with you to a museum. Look around for single dads at parks & other places one goes with a child. While there befriend other women to enlarge your circle.
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