thebiglimp Posted January 22, 2018 Posted January 22, 2018 im reading too much into this but she just happens to be someone more attractive than any girls i've met in a while, so... we matched on tinder (of course) we've been texting for a month cuz we live in different cities and then she happens to travel to my city with a friend for a tour and meets me the meet goes great, nothing flirty tho cuz her friend's there, and at the end we pretty much agree to meet again i text her next day, and this is the first ever compliment/personal comment thats been said to her- 'i thought you were pretty awesome, by the way.' just something silly but letting her know that i liked her. her response- 'great to finally meet you! will be good to have a friend in town soon!' (im moving to her city for work) i dunno... looking at it now it's a positive response but initially i felt friendzoned. I was hoping for a compliment back, lol. she's mid thirtys too so casualness is also something to be expected, in my experience. am i friendzoned or should i keep on keeping on?
drakon12 Posted January 22, 2018 Posted January 22, 2018 Well, you're friendzoned. At least you're not in the "I see you as my little brother" zone. Also, I think friendzone isn't all that bad. At least she sees you as a friend. This year I experienced something worse, I call it "not-even-a-friend-zone". Both is to deny you from intimacy and sexuality but latter is worse IMO. 1
andy.broadbent Posted January 22, 2018 Posted January 22, 2018 Hi, It does seem like friendzone but I wouldn't give up yet. Try to keep things interesting and see how it develops but no expectations good luck! 2
Crazyalex84 Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Hi, It does seem like friendzone but I wouldn't give up yet. Try to keep things interesting and see how it develops but no expectations good luck! This. I would say borderline friendzoned. You are not deep in it, but you'll have to work on it. Share common interest, hang out, invite her to dinner. Things could change really fast! 1
Maggie4 Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 When this happens by text, you need to immediately shoot back at lightning speed : what? no way! "friend"?! I want more! (insert appropriate emoji). You need to react strongly and be very clear, this is easier to do at the very start when both people are not yet invested. 1
Interstellar Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 (edited) Sounds like it but some women put up this mock struggle. Did she at least touch you during the date? Like brush her arm against you? did she compliment you? did you make her laugh? You’re not saying much of anything as far as her interest level goes. Don’t keep your hopes up on anything though and don’t let your emotions run. This is very important. She lives far from you. Even if you date her are you moving there permanently? because this sounds like a waste of time. Edited January 23, 2018 by Interstellar
Author thebiglimp Posted January 23, 2018 Author Posted January 23, 2018 No nothing physical or sexual. Just a hug at the beginnjng and even bjgger one at the end. Her friend was there the whole time so it was restricted even if she wanted to make it something more. But the friend was kinda the third wheel, cuz we did most of the talking between eachother. She was laughing a lot at my stuff, asking me a lot about myself, ect. Kept saying it was the best night ever, lol. We just clicked conversationwise, and i got some eye play from her- meaning, i could tell she was liking what she was seeing. And she was wondering when i would be moving n what we could do together next time but nothing conclusive since neither one of us know much about the new city (we're both expats) But shes canadian, im american, and canadians are usually much friendlier in my experience, so i dunno. Maybe she just wants a friend as it was kinda stated in her tinder bio.
rightondude Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 eh, I don't think all's lost yet. Just don't overdo it. Be your cool self and she'll either be into it or at worst you'll have a friend (who might slip up and cozy up, but don't just linger waiting for that to happen because that's like kinda creepy and never works). Good luck brother!
smackie9 Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 She was interested, so she met you....didn't feel anything/change her mind....not a crime. Instead of saying it to your face, she called you a friend. It's no game....she rejected you. How would you like to be turned down? Bluntly instead?
staggerlee71 Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 She was interested, so she met you....didn't feel anything/change her mind....not a crime. Instead of saying it to your face, she called you a friend. It's no game....she rejected you. How would you like to be turned down? Bluntly instead? Slow death please 1
smackie9 Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 Being overly invested is a slow death.......
staggerlee71 Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 Being overly invested is a slow death....... understanding why you over invest is the pot of gold
smackie9 Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 understanding why you over invest is the pot of gold Hah I'm not the one chasing rainbows here......
staggerlee71 Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 Hah I'm not the one chasing rainbows here...... lol..just sayin introspection....so difficult
Iseult Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 am i friendzoned or should i keep on keeping on? There are none so blind as those who will not see.
Author thebiglimp Posted January 24, 2018 Author Posted January 24, 2018 Well we're still texting n shes initiated the next meet, like hey lets do this once u move. and.... its an icecream date, lol. I love icecream tho. And im keeping my expectations down to zero. It shouldnt be that hard.
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