Author smile95 Posted August 26, 2005 Author Posted August 26, 2005 I do have to start on myself...I want to be happy again(not from him being in my life). Wow you are right....I am planning on him calling in the future(maybe since he always does). I will need to stop that and not care what he does in a few months. This wkend will be hard. I know I will get the urge to call, but I decided to walk the dog or call a friend until that urge is done and I hope each time I do not call, I will feel powerful.... Sundrop- it is sad that they work all the time. He is 30 and I know that he is starting to see it, but work is #1-the only thing he has not failed at and rewards him.
sundrop Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 I do have to start on myself...I want to be happy again(not from him being in my life). Wow you are right....I am planning on him calling in the future(maybe since he always does). I will need to stop that and not care what he does in a few months. This wkend will be hard. I know I will get the urge to call, but I decided to walk the dog or call a friend until that urge is done and I hope each time I do not call, I will feel powerful.... Sundrop- it is sad that they work all the time. He is 30 and I know that he is starting to see it, but work is #1-the only thing he has not failed at and rewards him. It is sad that they work all the time, but we can't us that to excuse them for not giving us what we wat or need. I just had to except the fact of this. I understand needin to work and he loved what he did and I could see that but in the end I wasn't getting what I needed. Between him working 10-12 hours a day and then having to leave for work on the weekend sometimes, and then when he did have off time, he ws tending to the yard, or house work etc... Now I realize how lonely I was even in the relationship when he was working so much. I miss him, and miss the little bit of time we got to share together, and I have urges to want to call him when I know he has an off weekend, but I also know I can't, because I will be back at square one all over again. Beth, It sounds like to me when I read your post, you have a big heart. Share that with someone who deserves it, it sounds like to me the ex you are posting about does deserve it and respect it.
Author smile95 Posted August 26, 2005 Author Posted August 26, 2005 sundrop-thanks I think I could have written this........what you wrote Now I realize how lonely I was even in the relationship when he was working so much. I miss him, and miss the little bit of time we got to share together, and I have urges to want to call him when I know he has an off weekend, but I also know I can't, because I will be back at square one all over again. This is sooooo me!!!! Ihave to think logically and not with my heart anymore.....I know I was alone the whole time too. It was all in my head. The longer I sit and cry over him, the longer I proling meeting someone who apprecites me. Do you still talk AT all to your ex? I guess I was wanting to be his friend to have hope....but as I said in my other post, it will emotionally tear me up. what do you do to keep busy?
sundrop Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Originally posted by beth5201 Do you still talk AT all to your ex? I guess I was wanting to be his friend to have hope....but as I said in my other post, it will emotionally tear me up. what do you do to keep busy? We have only been broken up for a month and a half. We really hadn't spoken to each other until yesterday when I had a family emergancy and he came to my rescue. But the meeting was brief and nothing much was said. We have corresponded though text about a few things, but I'm done with texting. For me I'm not sure if I can be friends. He and I tried that once before when we broke up and I couldn't do it. We had been broken up for about 3 months and he got fired from his job, and he called me needing a friend, for a month I was by his side until he got back on his feet and it killed me, so I know now this time around I cant be friends, It's got to be all or nothing. I feel I deserve that and honestly if I try to be friends I will never move on. I keep busy by reading books, and coming here, or calling a friend and going over to their house, especially when I feel antsy and want to call him, and give them my cell phone when i get there so I don't call him, by the time I am on my way home, they have talked me out of calling him. Just keep telling yourself over and over again, that you deserve better, you have a big heart that someone else out there deserves. In on of my books, it said make yourself go out on duty dates. If someone ask you out, even though you maynot be interested in them go... It will give you a boost of confidence and take up some of your free time and you might actually have a good time and meet a new friend.
sundrop Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 And as far as being friends with an ex, I am only friends with 1 of my ex's and it took us 10 yrs to get there.
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