noname Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 i have a great relationship with my woman's family. real cool with everyone. her mother, sister, and brothers all call me to chat and hang out. one thing kinda freaks me out though. her mother will call me and say things like "hi handsome" or "hello sexy boy" and i'm like WTF? she hasn't made any passes at me, and i don't "think" she flirts with me. but, not having gone through this before, it kinda makes me a little uncomfortable. i have never said anything to anybody because i feel i may be overreacting and i don't wanna raise any flags or make anyone uncomfortable. i guess i can just suck it up and deal with it. which is probably what i'll do. but i would like to hear from anybody if this is pretty normal or highly inappropriate. i honestly don't think she means anything by it. it may just be like a term of endearment...
flowergirl Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Dude, that woman sounds like she has issues! You need to tell someone so it doesn't come back on you, and she can't accuse you of making it all up. Maybe you can write it down when sh calls so you'll have positive proof. Good luck, man.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Originally posted by Star Gazer Talk to her mom directly. Tell her that you're uncomfortable with any sort of sweet moniker from anyone other than your GF. I think that's easier said than done. You could say something more humorous like "whoa those words are reserved for your daughter to use!" Or, just tell your girlfriend that you wish her mom wouldn't do that, and let her deal with it.
Author noname Posted August 25, 2005 Author Posted August 25, 2005 yeah, i contemplated joking with her in the beginning, but i feel i might have just let it slip to far. this has been going on for a couple years now, and i held my tongue. if i go and say something now, it might be blown out of porportion. singling out the mom woudn't do anything for me. they are super close and everything that goes on she discusses with her daughter. the minute i made her feel a smidgen uncomfortable, you better believe that her daughter would know about it. she is a sweet lady and i honestly think she means no harm. i don't know if it has anything to do with it, but she is not a native english speaker, so she may not even realize that her words are taken funny. i guess that as long as she never let's on that it is something "impure" i can deal with it. i was just curious to see if it ever happened to anyone else...
Pyro Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Maybe she is just testing you. Making sure that you are faithful and/or not a flirt. Just my two cents.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Do you want her to stop? Next time you could tell her "You know, if I ever marry your daughter, you'll have to stop flirting with me". but don't forget to laugh it off.
JPMorgan Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 If she's been saying this stuff for a couple of years I'm sure she doesn't mean anything untoward by it. Especially since you said English is not her native tongue. It kinda makes me wonder how my in-laws feel about me saying "Hi'ya handsome" "you sexy thing you" and "hot stuff" to my FIL sometimes! It's all in good clean fun and I *think* we all know it's just harmless joking/flirting---I never really thought about it before. But if someone did say to me that it made them uncomfortable or asked me how I mean that I think it would become an uncomfortable situation for everyone. Oh dear, now I'm wondering about my in-laws. Sometimes I'll joke with FIL and say somthing like "well, did'ja hang 'em high yet?" (in reference to the western and an inside family joke that has some sexual overtones!)
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