Boyfriend is apparently addicited to pot?Do people get addicted to pot?

[justcallmesnug]

I am wondering if you can offer advice on marijuana addiciton. My current boyfriend seems to have to smoke this every single day. he has cut down from continual smoking all day for years to one joint per day. Am I off base in thinking this makes his personality somewhat strange?

 

If anyone has experience in this, I'd appreciate your feedback

[LucreziaBorgia]

Is it affecting his ability to function, or does he put his smoking before things like paying bills, working, day-to-day activities, etc? What problems are you seeing in his life as a result of his use? Is it a point of contention in your relationship with him? Does he actually have a problem with it, in that it interferes with his life - or is the problem that you don't like him doing it?

 

Mr. B smokes a little pretty much every day and has for years, and the only problem I have with it is that it is illegal. He isn't "addicted", he just likes to smoke it. He smokes it at night after Little B. and I have gone to bed. It hasn't affected our life negatively in any way, shape or form. I worry about the health issues of any inhaled burning substance (carcinogens), but I'm far more worried about him smoking cigarettes.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by justcallmesnug

Am I off base in thinking this makes his personality somewhat strange?

No you are not off base. Most folks that smoke reefer madnes every day have some serious issues. Pot is psychologically addicting but it is not physically addicting. One major problem with mar-a-joo-anh-ha is that it totally f***s up your motivation to do anything except smoke more pot.

[Art_Critic]

Originally posted by alphamale

No you are not off base. Most folks that smoke reefer madnes every day have some serious issues. Pot is psychologically addicting but it is not physically addicting. One major problem with mar-a-joo-anh-ha is that it totally f***s up your motivation to do anything except smoke more pot.

 

 

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[Teag]

One major problem with mar-a-joo-anh-ha is that it totally f***s up your motivation to do anything except smoke more pot.

 

This is so true with most people anyway. My H smoke everyday & yes he is addicted. The only problem I have with it is he has the operatunity to b/c manager where he's working but he has to stop smoking for 3 months to pass a hair folicle drug test & he won't do it. He says he's going to but he won't. Thats the problem I have with it. For some reason he can't stop. Now it doesn't affect his personality except when he goes for a few days w/out smoking he's really grumpy. But If it wasn't illegal & & he sisn't have to pass a drug test to go anywhere in life then I wouldn't have a problem with him smoking, I would actually rather him smoke that than smoke ciggs or drink.

[New_Wife]

people can be addicted to anything. food, shopping, hard drugs, prescription drugs, alcohol, sex, you name it.

[Groovy]

I had a similar issue with my fiance. I basically said good bye to him and told him to get lost. God, I remeber literally slamming the door in his face. He promised it wouldn't happen again, though he smoked it recreationally like once a month or less. He says he doesn't do it anymore and he probably doesn't. But if he did do it in the future, trust me it won't be around me or at my house!

 

I discovered my friends husband smokes it all the time. The good part is that pot rarely makes people violent like alcohol. But it is a crutch ESPECIALLY if they do it every day. And unlike alcohol it is illegal and can cost a job and cause a permanent record.

 

I wasn't sure I wanted to give my man another chance because I have seen it hurt my family enough. It was hard for me to forgive any of it.

 

I would say if he smokes pot he needs to keep it away from you. You don't need to get in deep Sh_t for his wrongs. And he needs to respect the fact that you are not interested in it. Have you told him how you feel? And if you plan on having kids with him that's whole new ball game. Just some things to consider.....

[SexKitten]

And unlike alcohol it is illegal and can cost a job and cause a permanent record.

 

 

 

i'm on the side that thinks alcohol is worse. i've never seen someone so high on pot that they stumble around break stuff, get mad at little things, or end up in fights. and i know (or knew, i guess) a lot of potheads.

 

alcoho also has its illegalities (with regard to age, driving laws, posession laws, etc.) these things can absolutely add a notch on your permanent record.

 

i'm not saying i think people should pick between two poisons, but i definitely don't think that alcohol is the most obvious and acceptable alternative to marijuana.

[littlekitty]

No you are not off base. Most folks that smoke reefer madnes every day have some serious issues. Pot is psychologically addicting but it is not physically addicting. One major problem with mar-a-joo-anh-ha is that it totally f***s up your motivation to do anything except smoke more pot.

 

That's not true. I smoke everyday and have done for years. I work hard, have a good career which is progressing very well and very quickly. I own my own house, car etc. I'm responsibile, motivated and a completely normal person in a loving relationship, with no physco tendancies at all!!!

 

I just like this way of relaxing and winding down outside of work. In many ways it's no different to many people who have a few beers everyday after work. Both are drugs. It's just pot is illegal.

 

I know Judges, Professors etc all who smoke regularly. Don't judge a pot smoker so harshily. When was the last time you saw a group of teenage pot smokers wreaking a car or fighting or various other drunken horrible acts? They're probably playing play station eating twinkies!!!

 

However, I would state for the record, that while not physically addictive, I do believe there is a habitual psychological addiction associated with regular use.

[Art_Critic]

That's not true. I smoke everyday and have done for years.

 

 

 

I do believe there is a habitual psychological addiction associated with regular use.

 

So.. Going by these statements we can conclude that you are psychologicaly addicted.

 

Funny in away that you just admited that your are addicted

 

Post in 10 years when your metabolism slows down some .. You will become a wasteland and have no drive.. then you will be still saying I own my own house and have a deadend job and nobody promotes me.. what is wrong ?

 

 

The majority of the daily pot smokers I know follow the same path ..

Doh !

[laRubiaBonita]

So.. Going by these statements we can conclude that you are psychologicaly addicted.

 

Funny in away that you just admited that your are addicted

 

Post in 10 years when your metabolism slows down some .. You will become a wasteland and have no drive.. then you will be still saying I own my own house and have a deadend job and nobody promotes me.. what is wrong ?

 

 

The majority of the daily pot smokers I know follow the same path ..

Doh !

 

But one can end up a loser even if they have never smoked....so i really do not see you point?

[littlekitty]

So.. Going by these statements we can conclude that you are psychologicaly addicted.

 

Funny in away that you just admited that your are addicted

 

Post in 10 years when your metabolism slows down some .. You will become a wasteland and have no drive.. then you will be still saying I own my own house and have a deadend job and nobody promotes me.. what is wrong ?

 

 

The majority of the daily pot smokers I know follow the same path ..

Doh !

 

Why is it funny that I admitted I'm addicted?

 

Perhaps my post was a little misleading. Your view on pot users is incorrect. Not the fact you stated about the addiction. Here I believe you are quite correct.

 

I do see that there is certainly a psychological/habitual addiction where I am concerned. I enjoy it, but I guess there is some level of addiction there, just as there would be with smoking or drinking regularly. I don't panic if I don't have any, but I will look forward the next time I have some. I didn't state a level of addiction. It's not like a heroin addiction, but yes, there's pretty much some level of addiction there. Hell, I'm addicted to Coca-Cola too..!!!

 

Firstly I don't expect to still be smoking it in 10 years. I want to have children in the next few years, and won't be doing so when pregnant or there after. While I am currently fairly free to do as i please, I will continue to enjoy this little habit.

 

If I was still smoking, I'm sure you'd still find me the same person. I go to the gym 3/4 times a week and am fit and healthy in every other aspect of my life. I can't see me suddenly turning into a mindless blimp because I hit 40 and am still smoking....!!

 

Any 40yr old smokers, feel free to back me up here!!

 

Perhaps you should give it a try and open your mind!!

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

To me, the definition of addicting is you need it everyday to , not so much to feel normal, but to carry on with your life. Cigarettes are addicting, you need them daily, and its difficult to quit. I can love with out pot. I have before I can do it again, But I do smoke at least 4-5 times a week. And I've been doing that for about 6 years. Now I know I'm going to hear "Well keep doing it, you'll become stupid." I'll do any drug I want to as long as I keep a good job, and not fall in the trap. I have been doing drugs socially for 4 years now and I have 2 jobs ( no not to pay for the drugs) basically so I keep myself busy. Keep both jobs while volunteering and blah blah blah ( I won't broe you)

 

Newsflash people POTS NOT THA BAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[New_Wife]

That was one of the biggest Thread-Jacks I've yet seen! This person is not asking for the great THC debate, she's concerned about her man's actual addiction.

 

As far as that goes - if you see it as a problem - then it is in your relationship.

 

Food is perfectly legal, and you need it to survive. Yet my first husband is addicted to it, as is his mother, and both are so grossly obese that they are losing circulation in their legs. No, not kidding here. His legs are greenish yellow.

 

Now, is food good? Sure. Legal? Of course. But for these people, it is an addiction that will severly hamper their lives and probably kill them. I have to fight hard to help my daughter learn to eat healthy (enter Weight Watchers) as her weight skyrocketed in the last few years from eating with the fam.

 

Oops, in danger of jacking the thread myself!

 

In any event, to the OP, only you can decide to what extent this addiction will imapct your relationship. It clearly makes you worried and uncomfortable - and you really should trust yourself and your feelings. They rarely steer you in the wrong direction, and if you ignore them, oftentimes you find yourself administering a mental head-slap later with the "I told me so"s.

[Art_Critic]

I don't know if it was a thread jack.

 

The OP wanted to know if people can get addicted to pot and the last few posters have answered that for the OP.

 

The answer is yes

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

The answer is yes

 

The answer is no

[Groovy]

If someone is not addicted they will not have a hard time stopping. My 2 most serious relationships one person has quit smoking pot and the other guy stopped drinking, each had their own substance they preferred. They knew my family, my fears and knew it would cause me to push them away. Each guy had a regular habit every week of unwinding with a joint or some beers until they knew how I felt. Many men or women adjust their habits based on what it means to another person.

 

You can be drinking each night with supper and have no hard time dropping it or you can be a binge party person on the weekend where nothing stops you. For some people occassional use of something negatively affects their family, friends, emotional welfare and jobs but they still feel the need for it in their life. And other people are not so greatly affected and having it is totally optional.

 

My only advice on this is if he knows how you feel and continues to have it around then he is addicted, or simply doesn't care enough to be worth your time. Either way does it matter, anything important to you should be a consideration of his.

[I HATE WEED]

I hate marajuana and always have. My boyfriend is a pothead I didnt mind it at first but now I am a Correction Officer.

 

It is illegal. It is so wrong for him to bring it into our apartment or to have it in our possesion when we are together.

 

He say whats the big deal alchohol is worse. I go in the other room to smoke it. He says he is addicted and if I loved him I would accept it.

 

I am so tired of the arguing and the crying over this. He says what are you going to do about it? Leave me?

 

So to all you marijuana smokers out there what is your advice???

[Muhlissuh]

He asked...

You should leave him! He should choose which he's adicted to more... You or the substance.

 

I had the same problem a while ago, I told him that he could choose one of two options... Weed or Me. He stoped weed. Go figure.

 

You know, everyone will tell you this, but most likely you won't listen. A guy that doesn't give up something for you, isn't worth your time.

Take that into serious consideration though. If he were to ask YOU to give up something, would you be willing? If so, shouldn't you recieve the same sort of respect? With a relationship respect is usually called a different thing... Love.

Love is a powerful thing, and it should be alot more powerful than a stupid substance, like weed. So, ask him one more time. And this time, do what scares him. Tell him that YES, you would leave him if he doesn't stop. Becase, honestly... Do you want to MARRY a pothead?