hope18 Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 Hey guys, does this sound like a rebound relationship to you? -guy was head over heels in love with his ex gf but they had to split for reasons that had nothing to do with their relationship, distance. (their relationship was nearly perfect, no real issues), but they are no longer on speaking terms -no one saw the breakup coming, not even him. (I say this because people often say "the dumper has usually moved on for weeks or months before the breakup actually happens") -a month after their breakup he kept telling his ex when she asked that his feelings for her had not changed, he still loved her and thought he might come back one day when the timing is better -he started trying to date a new girl less than two weeks later, when she went crazy he immediately found another girl to replace her and they have been together around 3 months -there is no doubt that if the ex had been in the same place as him, they would never have broken up or he would have chosen her over this new girl -his new gf is VERY similar to his ex from the way she dresses to her smile -new gf has been head over heels in love with him since day one constantly posting about them. she is also extremely insecure stalking the ex gf's social media and mimicking everything she posts within a day after she posts it -before things got serious with this new girl, the guy told one of his friends that she was way more into him than he was into her and that he still loved his ex. -there are little clues everywhere: he never talks about this new girl the way he did his ex, doesn't look at her the same way or look nearly as happy, he made a playlist two months after the breakup all about missing exes and wanting to go back in time and life sucking etc. -he is a rather insecure and sensitive guy who seems to need validation from female attention that he is loved/wanted, it seems like he was looking for any relationship after the breakup and if that first girl after his ex hadn't gone psycho he would have ended up dating her, and if this new gf had gone crazy I have no doubt he would have rushed to replace her quickly, too. I think it's less about who he's with and more that he has to be with someone Does this sound like a rebound? To me it seems like he was rushing to fill the void his ex left and if it hadn't worked out with this girl he would have quickly found another. The only factor that makes me think it may not be a rebound is that they have been together around 3 months now and from what I've heard rebounds usually end within the first couple of weeks or months.
kendahke Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 Yes it does. Rebounds have no time limit. They run the course until they smash into the wall of truth. It sounds like the new girl is just a time marker until circumstances work out to go back to the ex. 1
Author hope18 Posted January 18, 2018 Author Posted January 18, 2018 Yes it does. Rebounds have no time limit. They run the course until they smash into the wall of truth. It sounds like the new girl is just a time marker until circumstances work out to go back to the ex. That's what I think too, he also told the ex directly when they broke up that he could not handle seeing other couples around him and not having her there with him, so it really sounds like he was trying to fill the void she left and the new girl just happens to be a good person so it worked out quickly.
kendahke Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 I feel badly for the new girl because she is not aware of what her actual role in his life is. She's in for a lot of pain when she figures all of this out.
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