samski3409 Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 It's been a little over three weeks of n/c and i just miss her so much!! i just want to call her!!! damn,this sucks! i know that N/C is the right thing for me in this situation,because months of staying in contact with only served to hurt me more. but i just thought i'd get on here and vent a little bit. Instead of sitting at my desk knowing that she's sitting in front of a computer as well and an email to her would be a click away!!!!! but i'm not going to do it.( i hope!!!)
sundrop Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Good for you. Don't send her an email as tempting as it maybe. She maybe thinking he same thing. But you know have a little satisfaction knowing she maybe doing the same thing, wanting to contact you. If you email her, she wins...... If she emails you.... you win..... So don't email her. You are the winner in this game.
Author samski3409 Posted August 24, 2005 Author Posted August 24, 2005 thanks Sun, I just have to keep doing what i'm doing. i just know that any time i feel down and want to call her i'm going to come on here and write something instead. This has been so tough for me,but i know that by n/c i'll get a little better everyday.continuing talking to her got me nowhere,at least now i feel like i'm working toward a goal:not to get back with her,like i was before but to get over her and get on with my life.
sundrop Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Samski, You are doing a good job, by not calling or emailing, Isn't not easy to ignore the feeling, just have the satisfaction that she is proably wanting to know what you are doing and how you are doing, and if you don't email her she will not know. I used to call my ex and leave him messages, he would only respond to me via text messages, then I finally quit calling and now the texting is getting less and less on my part and his are getting sweeter and sweeter. I am slowing turning the table and I guess peeking his interest and now he is wondering what's going on. Why am I not calling him anymore, why am I bing striaght to the point in my text messages etc..... So I am going to make him sweat it out for a while..... In the mean time I keep building my strength and you will to.
Author samski3409 Posted August 24, 2005 Author Posted August 24, 2005 Damn, love is the best and the worst thing ever!!! sun, I'm feeling a lot better now. the work day ended up being pretty good. and the incouraging words from you were great. Time to go hit the gym and keep myself feeling good. Another day that i didn't call.we'll start all over again tomorrow
kscholze Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 I am in your situation. Been NC for about a month now. The last time she wouldn't say she didn't love me in a romantic way anymore, but she did say that she didn't want to be in a relationship with me. That was it for me. It drives me crazy wondering how she is doing because she was having some health problems, but It hurts so much to hear her voice or see a text. NC is the only way> Never try to get them back. Great words to go by, but love writes the rules Wish she would contact me...
kscholze Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 this is great. Right after my last post my ex texted me and said "well at any rate I hope you have a good birthday and I guess I won't bother you anymore. Have Fun". It felt great to see that, but now I am back to square one. WHAT TO DO NOW!?!?!?
bennychase Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 samski, Hang in there and be strong because you are doing the right thing for YOU! I to tried to stay in contact with my ex mainly because she kept telling me she wanted to still talk and be friends. The whole time she was moving on and I was living in misery and couldn’t move on because I kept talking to her and had the false hope that talking to her would bring her back to me. I tried NC a couple of times but broke down the second or third time she called. I finally told her how I felt and that I did not want to talk to her anymore because this "friendship" she said we had was unhealthy and not a friendship at. I stopped talking to her compltetly and was finally able to begin healing after enduring putting myself through that for 6 months. Yeah, I hung on that long even though I knew in my heart it was over. Its hard, and I def. know what you are going through. But it’s not worth losing your happiness to contact her again. Think about it this way. If you contact her now, you may feel good about it for a day or two but you will be unhappy longer. If you hang in there and do things to jump-start your life and not contact her, you may be sad now, but in the long run you will be a bigger stronger person! Good luck man, and I hope you hang in there and do what you ultimately feel is best for YOU!
Author samski3409 Posted August 24, 2005 Author Posted August 24, 2005 Originally posted by kscholze this is great. Right after my last post my ex texted me and said "well at any rate I hope you have a good birthday and I guess I won't bother you anymore. Have Fun". It felt great to see that, but now I am back to square one. WHAT TO DO NOW!?!?!? that's crazy!!! i think that you shouldn't do anything,just let her sweat it out. i know that easy for me to say,cuz i'd have a hard time doing that myself if i got a text from my ex. dude!! everytime i get a freaking text i'm wishing that it's from her and i'm disapointed when it's not. but it would probly be more of the same crap: I love you,i miss you blah,blah,blah!! but she never wanted to do anything about it,just keep saying the same crap with no actions at all!! what does she know about missing me? if she really missed me she knew where i was all she had to do was come over. but i couldn't do the same,she left me. she had all the power but no longer
sundrop Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Kscholze, Don't respond, she is just trying to ruffle your feather. Trust me I tried that with my ex and when he didn't respond it bothered me more than anything. Samski, Good for you, another day down, and hopefully tomorrow will be better. It gets easier, but it will take some time. The end of a relationship is like trying to break a bad habbit. The withdrawls get easier over time.
sundrop Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 Originally posted by kscholze I know I shouldn't, but I know I will. Hey, look on the bright side..... You know what your weakness is....
CinnamonGrl Posted August 27, 2005 Posted August 27, 2005 I thought you "deleted that B*tch"...????? You miss her, you hate her........ Or am I reading your posts out of order.... Get over her and move on - sounds harsh but it's always the best. Going back never works.
sundrop Posted August 28, 2005 Posted August 28, 2005 Originally posted by CinnamonGrl I thought you "deleted that B*tch"...????? You miss her, you hate her........ Or am I reading your posts out of order.... Get over her and move on - sounds harsh but it's always the best. Going back never works. Hey Cinnamon grl, This was his first post, then he deleted her.
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