Gaeta Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 To simply state "I need 100% trust" without looking to our own behavior for signs as to why someone may not trust us can lead to very poor relationship experiences. I handle myself like a trust worthy woman. My partner is not jealous and I am not jealous toward him because we don't give each other reasons to be jealous. I would not call going to a political event a reason for my partner to be jealous. If he were It would be a red flag to me. I also am mature enough to understand my partner is not my ex. One of my ex cheated on me multiple times, I don't hold it above my BF's head. I would never tell my BF he cannot attend a meeting because my ex cheated and I feel insecure, why? because when I left my cheating relationship I attended to my wounds and I completely recovered before entering another relationship. Maybe OP's bf should spend more time alone before dating again.
Gaeta Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 Trust is a two way street and sometimes, when someone doesn't trust us, it's because of something we may have inadvertently done. OP said some dude is hitting on her at those meetings. I asked her if she reports these stories to her bf. I did not get an answer yet. If she does than she is the source of her problem.
Author I'veseenbetterlol Posted January 18, 2018 Author Posted January 18, 2018 Insecure people that are jealous are a well with no bottom. Not the same as being insecure about our looks or about our professional achievement. It's a different beast. His insecurities are caused by distrust & by lack of control. You cannot reassure a jealous man, Jealousy masks other deficiencies and OP will discover them soon. I def agree, but since I've dated someone upper controlling I can gauge how much is too much. The guy I dated (only a short while, he ended up driving me up the wall), was a bottomless well. I would spend a whole day w/him, 5 or more days a week and I would talk to him on the phone, he still didn't trust me.
kendahke Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 My bf is always concerned a little jealous. Btw when I go he is working' date=' I never go if I can spend the time w/him. Both of us have had bad relationships. Is he being unreasonable? I have never cheated and neither has he.[/quote'] To me, there is nothing here for him to be jealous of. Is there more to this story than you've shared? This is a whole lot of nothing to work up being unreasonable over.
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