Does my "ex" still like me?

[N2017]

There's this guy I was talking to for a while and we both really liked each other. We dated for around 6 months and were in off-and-on long distance sort of thing for around 3 while I have been in college. For some background information, things were going pretty well with him until he started pushing for more physical intimacy without willing to conform to the expectations I had. I told him many times I needed certain things to happen before I could get physically intimate with him, and he got upset before I went to college and wouldn't even text or talk to me.

 

I don't let my guard down for guys and because I felt like I did for him I got all depressed and crap and tried sending him messages (I know, pathetic right). I eventually gave up. Once I was in college, he started talking to me again, and we were in a draining on and off long distance sort of thing that was on and off primarily because we kept having the same argument over and over again. I finally told him to basically go find someone else and I went no contact on him for a month and a half. This is the longest we have ever gone without talking.

 

He tried contacting me a couple times and adding me on social media and I ignored it because I felt like I needed some space to calm down and finish my first semester strong. He's very immature and a douche but I have to admit that I don't hate him or wish him bad or don't care about him. After this and being on winter break, I decided to finally reply to his message. I started out with hey, he said hello, then I told him about a car I saw that reminded me of him (he likes cars). And he got all interested in that and was asking me questions about the car and then at one point his responses seemed kinda short so I was like "Anyways I'll stop bothering you" and then he started asking me about my new job and said he'd heard my boss talking about me.

 

After that I didn't hear from him for 2 days and he's like "so why did you choose to contact me? Don't you hate me?". This was on new years eve, and I was with family all day, so I responded very late and I said "idk I felt like it" and then he said "OK" and so then I was like whoops maybe I should say something more and I said "yeah last time you were a real jerk but I just felt like messaging you, but sorry if I bothered you. Happy New Year!" and he's like "happy new year cutie let's text" so then we started texting and he asked how I was and I was telling him I'm tired and I'm wearing way too much makeup from a party (he knows I don't like it haha we would joke) and he asked to see my face so I sent him a selfie and then he said "looking good" and I was like thanks haha and then the conversation went on about what we did on new years and he says "damn your lips" and I'm like "what about them and he's like "they look lonely" and I'm like "lonely lol [my name] the owner of lonely lips haha".

 

Then he didn't say anything for a week, mind you on new years he was responding within seconds. And so I was like oh okay he's over it and then all of a sudden a week later I get a text saying "hello", so later I just said "hi" and I still havent heard back.

 

And now we go to the same school and I'm sitting in the cafeteria and he walks right by me and doesn't say anything... and I'm not gonna say anything.

 

I'm sorry this is so long and terrible English... but please help me!!! I'm so confused.

Edited January 16, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[d0nnivain]

I think he likes you when it is convenient for him & when he thinks he's going to get what he wants.

 

 

Now that he's in college to he has discovered lots of other girls who are willing to go along with what he wants no conditions required. You have standards so you are too much work.

[Gillys]

Like Donnivain said you have standards (which is NOT a bad thing). Honestly, this kid doesn't sound like he is worth lowering your standards for if he can't even acknowledge you on campus. Im sure there are plenty of other nice gentlemen at your college to date. Men who are capable of respecting you, developing a mutual understanding on physical boundaries and most importantly not pressuring you to have sex when you're not ready.

[qtntran]

What are you hoping to hear back from him? More flirting without them going anywhere leaving you confused again? My guess is you want attention from him with all the texting, making sure he didn't forget you and he's throwing breadcrumbs back at you. Whatever you're willing to put up is what you're going to get.

 

What's so attractive about his immaturity and douchiness? Time to get over your "I like bad boys" phase unless you enjoy drama.

 

It seems like he only "like" your physical appearance from his wanting to get physical with you while you guys were dating and most of the text were comments based on your looks, nothing of substance.

 

Sorry to be blunt but yes, he "likes" you. But just your body. You're just a pretty face to him and someone who's willing to accept his bread crumbs and ****ty behaviors. If you're looking for him to change or to have a real commitment from him, forget it!

 

Whatever you do don't get physical with him thinking that will get him to change his mind. Sex is the only thing he's interested in. Not a relationship. If he did he wouldn't get upset with you when you said no.

 

The sooner you pop this bubble about him the sooner you can focus on your school work and work on building your self esteem. You deserve better. Stick to your standards and don't waste your time with douchebag.