Author fred123 Posted January 17, 2018 Author Posted January 17, 2018 Well... I like a deep philosophical discussion, but not usually on the first few dates. I would rather get to know the guy and have some fun together... please elaborate. id like to learn. also do you ask about exes?
Author fred123 Posted January 17, 2018 Author Posted January 17, 2018 so i asked her if she was free fri or sat to do something. i said we could go on a proper date in london. i suggested a show and that i need to book tickets. she said " yh maybe il let u know. not sure what my plans are" i then said i finish work early tonight so have evening if free if you wanted to hang out for a bit. she said yh she will text me later and let me know
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 17, 2018 Posted January 17, 2018 so i asked her if she was free fri or sat to do something. i said we could go on a proper date in london. i suggested a show and that i need to book tickets. she said " yh maybe il let u know. not sure what my plans are" i then said i finish work early tonight so have evening if free if you wanted to hang out for a bit. she said yh she will text me later and let me know She's just not that into you. She might go with you if nothing better comes up, though. Is this what you want? 1
BaileyB Posted January 17, 2018 Posted January 17, 2018 please elaborate. id like to learn. also do you ask about exes? No, definitely don't ask about exs on the first few dates. Fred, dating is supposed to be fun. Avoid topics of potential conflict - politics, religion, exs, etc...
Author fred123 Posted January 17, 2018 Author Posted January 17, 2018 so i asked her if she was free fri or sat to do something. i said we could go on a proper date in london. i suggested a show and that i need to book tickets. she said " yh maybe il let u know. not sure what my plans are" i then said i finish work early tonight so have evening if free if you wanted to hang out for a bit. she said yh she will text me later and let me know
BaileyB Posted January 17, 2018 Posted January 17, 2018 so i asked her if she was free fri or sat to do something. i said we could go on a proper date in london. i suggested a show and that i need to book tickets. she said " yh maybe il let u know. not sure what my plans are" i then said i finish work early tonight so have evening if free if you wanted to hang out for a bit. she said yh she will text me later and let me know Fred, you seem like a very nice man. You deserve to date someone who wants to spend time with you... Not someone who says "well maybe, let me think about it and I'll let you know..." Find someone else to date. This girl is not the one. 2
Gaeta Posted January 17, 2018 Posted January 17, 2018 so i asked her if she was free fri or sat to do something. i said we could go on a proper date in london. i suggested a show and that i need to book tickets. she said " yh maybe il let u know. not sure what my plans are" i then said i finish work early tonight so have evening if free if you wanted to hang out for a bit. she said yh she will text me later and let me know She is WASTING your time, don't you see it? She is telling you she'll go if she has nothing else to do, that means you are way at the bottom of her list and she doesn't care to see you or not. You have ENOUGH information now to drop this woman. We told you 100 times before, when a woman is not showing genuine interest you don't keep on dating them!!!!! you drop them early! This one deserves to be dropped now. This woman is laughing at you and you're solution is to bring her to London and pay for a night - STOP IT. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 17, 2018 Posted January 17, 2018 i will ask her out on a 5th date for this friday or saturday. il get tickets to a show or something for our date. i dont think she or girls ( esp learning from my ex) that they like to have deep emotional philosophical converstaions. i like to have deep convos because for me it shows connection on an emotional level but oh well i have to do what the women wants By deep conversations I didn't even mean real ones. I just meant you should not talk about the status of your relationship through any medium other than face to face. so i asked her if she was free fri or sat to do something. i said we could go on a proper date in london. i suggested a show and that i need to book tickets. she said " yh maybe il let u know. not sure what my plans are" i then said i finish work early tonight so have evening if free if you wanted to hang out for a bit. she said yh she will text me later and let me know As for the tickets, DO NOT waste any more money on this chick. She's using you for what you buy her. She does not like you. Tell her it's not working out because she's too equivocal. Use your Saturday night to go out & meet a girl who is into you.
Author fred123 Posted January 17, 2018 Author Posted January 17, 2018 By deep conversations I didn't even mean real ones. I just meant you should not talk about the status of your relationship through any medium other than face to face. As for the tickets, DO NOT waste any more money on this chick. She's using you for what you buy her. She does not like you. Tell her it's not working out because she's too equivocal. Use your Saturday night to go out & meet a girl who is into you. so she messaged me a couple of hours ago saying she would be free in an hour or so but doesnt want to stay out too long. i picked her up and went for a milkshake and hung out chatting in the car. she said she didnt want to stay out too late so just dropped her back home. i asked to kiss her and we kissed!
d0nnivain Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 OK, that is something. But I still wouldn't spring for expensive tickets in London yet. Come up with a different, cheaper date that allows you more time for kissing.
Author fred123 Posted January 18, 2018 Author Posted January 18, 2018 OK, that is something. But I still wouldn't spring for expensive tickets in London yet. Come up with a different, cheaper date that allows you more time for kissing. does this count as a date?
1fish2fish Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 another thing which i thought was strange was we had a phone call once and she told me about a guy she went on 2 dates with and he got touchy with her and she was put off by him trying to get a bit physical with and getting close to her like cuddling and hands holdiing etc. why is she telling me that? is that a sign ? i haven't kissed her or touched her yet To me, this sounds like her way of warning you NOT to kiss or touch her either. She's not into you. At all. Her gazillion daily texts are nothing more than her trying to feed her ego or pass the time. I'm sorry Fred, but she'll continue to use you as a meal/entertainment ticket as long as you let her.
1fish2fish Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 Oh! You kissed! Well then, I stand corrected! I still think she's not that into you, but I'm happy I read the other communication from her wrong.
Gaeta Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 To me the kiss doesn't change a thing. When you invite her on a proper date she can't commit 3 days ahead and she needs to first check if nothing else better is coming along. When she has an hour free here or there then she expect you to be standing by to take her out. You've seen her 5 times now, it's time for her to reach in her pocket and to invite you on a date. Do not spend all that money to take out in London.
newyorker11356 Posted January 18, 2018 Posted January 18, 2018 Oh! You kissed! Well then, I stand corrected! I still think she's not that into you, but I'm happy I read the other communication from her wrong. To me the kiss doesn't change a thing. When you invite her on a proper date she can't commit 3 days ahead and she needs to first check if nothing else better is coming along. When she has an hour free here or there then she expect you to be standing by to take her out. You've seen her 5 times now, it's time for her to reach in her pocket and to invite you on a date. Do not spend all that money to take out in London. Agreed. At BEST, she sees the OP as a very casual dating option. She does find him attractive enough to kiss him, but she clearly doesn't see him as a serious prospect. 1
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