ghjl Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Well, I met a girl about a month ago, that said she was dating other. We completely hit it off. She told me she loves me. She told me she thinks of me every waking moment. On and on and on. Turns out she was dating someone that lives across the US for about a year. A rich guy that she doesnt think would want a commitment. She sees him about once a month, but talks to him daily. She told me she would figure something out 2 weeks ago, or talk to him. She didnt. Then she told me she has to see him in person to tell him. She has seen him 2 times already since i am dating her, and she never said anything. So now, it has gotten to the point where I told her we shouldnt continue this. Neither of us are happy like we were before. SHe knows I dont like it, and she feels bad about it. Why do people, or women, take it so quickly to the "i miss you i love you" level, if they arent able to follow through? We could have dated casually, had fun, etc. but at the time, she kept asking what i want, what i would want, talking about future etc. She made it clear she wants something more. Why get my heart involved? All of this hurt and drama could have been avoided. So basically I told her we shouldnt talk until she figures it out, completely. Was it the right move ? I miss her terribly, and didnt want this to happen.. I cant stand someone telling me how much they miss and love me, and then taking off to be with another man. Or having to hear her talk to him when i am spending time with her.
Merin Posted August 25, 2005 Posted August 25, 2005 You did the right thing for you, and thats good. IMO If this Girl was in love with you, then there would only be YOU... Seems to me she holds on to this LD Guy because he has Money? Screw that, if she isn't about loving someone for who they are and not how much they can spend on her, then she isn't worth your time. Hang in there
Mr.positive Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 good look man. Yeh you can't have a relationship like that if thats not what you want. You'll just be unhappy . But good luck.
Candy Cane Posted August 31, 2005 Posted August 31, 2005 You absolutely made the right move. GOOD JOB!! Relationships are difficult and never perfect. People are also imperfect and all you can control is how you react to such things. Therefore, I would not even try to figure her out. You'd be wasting your time. Perhaps she does love you...and him...or neither. Perhaps she's telling you the truth about loving you or a compulsive liar. It's all up in the air at this point and you're going to drive yourself crazy trying to figure it all out. So DON'T. But, you'd be making a BIG mistake to go along with her craziness. For so many reasons. First of all, you'd be telling her that it's okay for her to jack around with your emotions. Second of all, you'd be acting like a wimp and not a man (and that's never attractive). And third....it's going to make you crazy too...and you do NOT want that. So...be committed to what you told her. If you change your mind or modify your rules, she will never respect you nor will you have the relationship that you truly deserve.
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