Jess xx Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Ok so I was at a bar on Friday and met this guy, we start chatting and we are both attracted to each other... so I find out his status...he says he has been seeing someone casually for a month. The next day he has managed to get my number!? and is ringing and texting saying he had a great time and wants to take me out...Im like um what about the girl you are seeing?? He says I'll end it with her so I can take you out but I said well only end it with her if you don't have strong feelings with her, not over me as we dont even know each other yet!! The next day he gets in touch says he feels guilty to the other girl but he hasnt even seen her for the past 10days but they are technically seeing each other...so this starts to do my head in, Ive been here before with guys, so I say to him look get back to me when you are single basically. The next day he rings me...to say he hasnt spoken to the girl since Friday and tells me to have a good week! I don't get it!? Is he seeing her properly or what, is he trying to tell me that he wants to keep seeing her?...Im getting the impression they are not serious at all and am tempted to ask him for a drink, but am worried he'll say no because he has decided he is into her!? Thoughts would be appreciated LS ppl...By the way this dude is 26 and Im 24 before you ask how old we are because I know we sound like teens!!!!!!!!!
sburtug03 Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 You must not go out with him until he is single! As tempting as a drink sounds with someone who is potentially only slightly involved, he is still involved with someone! The cheak of him to keep his options open like this! What if he decides he likes both of you? Are you going to keep hanging on for an opening in his schedule depending on which girl he likes the thought of that particular night? If you go out with him before he is single, he will think that he can do whatever he likes! This already seems to be case. How can you date someone who seems so uncaring to this other girl? Would you want him to do that to you if you were 'sseing each other' or eventually in a relationship? Don't do it! x
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 I think he's fair game. He's not married, hell, he's not even in a long term committed relationship. He's been seeing this girl for a month, but not even talking to her daily or near-daily. I know you may feel bad for the other girl, but this is what dating's all about. If he was that into her, he wouldn't have been hitting on you and tracking down your phone number. The way I see it, you're doing her a favor if their relationship ends by eliminating that creep from her life. Why would she want to be with a guy who's hitting on other women already? But then again, why would you? Proceed cautiously with this guy. Who's to say he won't do the same thing with you?
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 I think he's fair game. He's not married, hell, he's not even in a long term committed relationship. He's been seeing this girl for a month, but not even talking to her daily or near-daily. I know you may feel bad for the other girl, but this is what dating's all about. If he was that into her, he wouldn't have been hitting on you and tracking down your phone number. The way I see it, you're doing her a favor if their relationship ends by eliminating that creep from her life. Why would she want to be with a guy who's hitting on other women already? But then again, why would you? Proceed cautiously with this guy. Who's to say he won't do the same thing with you?
Author Jess xx Posted August 25, 2005 Author Posted August 25, 2005 Thanks for advice, I hear what you are saying, that had already crossed my mind, that if he would do that to her, he would be capable of doing it to me!
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