Bekki47 Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 so me and the ex broke up after everything that had gone on between us. it's been 2 weeks of no contact I did wish him merry Xmas and he replied and said the same and that he missed and loved me and it was a very sad situation and then I went no contact but today I had to contact him. He got me a new phone on my birthday in his name and told me that he had paid the first month but now I have to pay the plan every month I wasn't very happy at the start because it was double what I was already paying but he did it as a gift. after we broke up he said the phone is no longer his responsibility and gave me the password to the account which was the date we met and thst if i need to call them then use that which is what I've been doing. today my line is dead I can't call out and no one can call me I'm cut off. I tried calling the company and they wouldn't tell me anything over the phone and said that I have to get the account holders permission to speak about my phone but I told them the last few weeks I been calling about my phone using the password but they said only the account holder can talk to them. im thinking he has reported my phone as lost. I had to break no contact and email him and ask him what's going on but I've had no response back. I don't know what to do now. it's a contract so I don't know what's going to happen or how to find out anything. I've checked my imei number and it's saying clean but can take a few days to show as lost. if he has done this that is so mean. I've never treated him bad has this happened to anyone else?
d0nnivain Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 If the contract is in his name, don't worry about it. Get yourself a phone you want / can afford & fully disconnect from him. 3
Zahara Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 ^ This ^ Perfect time for you to cut ties with him and get something you can afford. 1
Zahara Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 if he has done this that is so mean. I've never treated him bad has this happened to anyone else? Also, he's treated you poorly in the past so this kind of behavior should not be surprising. This is just who he is. As petulant as he was based on your past threads, maybe he's acting out again. Maybe he's moving on and doesn't want to be responsible for this anymore. Maybe he's annoyed that you've made no attempt to contact him and he's using this to trigger you. Maybe he just simply wants to jab at you. Regardless, you need to stay NC and move towards an alternative solution.
preraph Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 He probably did it just so you'd have to call begging him. Clearly the phone is in his name so you have no obligations to it and should just get rid of it. He may be tracking you on it anyway since he set it up. He may have parental controls on it and be able to see everything you do. Oh, yes. So take the battery out of it and shelve it. If it were in your name, they'd have given you information. It's not, so great, just stop using it entirely and get your own phone that you can trust. 2
HumanMachine Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 Not your contract; not your problem! What a silly move by him..
Author Bekki47 Posted January 11, 2018 Author Posted January 11, 2018 I think.ill just get rid of the phone. he messaged me before Christmas giving me the password to account and telling me to speak to them and I have been all along till now. I think if it was because he wanted me to go begging again which I wouldn't or he was annoyed I havnt contacted him I'm sure he would have replied back by now and when I wished him happy christmas we was my on bad terms or anything so I don't get why he's started to ignore me again two weeks on. I won't be messaging him again. I'll just get rid of the phone I'm not letting him get to me no more he's an idiot for treating me so bad. 1
CantTakeMySmile Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 I am curious, if you can just get a new phone, with no harm to Your credit, why wouldn’t you just do that? Not sure what the issue is ? 1
SpecialJ Posted January 12, 2018 Posted January 12, 2018 Just a heads up that there's a scam out there where people have been re-porting phone numbers in order to steal money from bank accounts. It's happened most frequently with t mobile. While it sounds like this is probably an issue with your ex being petty, there is an off chance possibility something else has happened with your number.
mayonnaise Posted January 13, 2018 Posted January 13, 2018 Oh, wow! Don't ever initiate contact, this is just a game he's playing. Don't play it with him, it's not worth it. It's time you take a stand for yourself, that you can work on it without his help. Plus, it's no longer your problem if his name is on the contract (knowing that the company doesn't give you the details). Go get a phone for yourself. It's not worth contacting him over. 1
preraph Posted January 13, 2018 Posted January 13, 2018 Wash your hands of him. You might even want to get a new phone number when you get a new phone just so he doesn't have it.
Author Bekki47 Posted January 13, 2018 Author Posted January 13, 2018 (edited) Well after writing this post he got back to me saying his phone had been blocked too because payment was late but he had got the Barr removed from both phones now but my phone was still blocked and he told me he would ring the tech team. We was on the phone all day between us trying to sort it out with me going to town to the store to check sim and in the end I had to factory reset my phone I backed up photos and contacts but lost everything else on my phone. I went to the store and they said the SIM was ok but there's an issue with the phone so I will have to take it next day and they would send it off. I text ex that the phones being sent away and he Said no problem I'll talk to you then. I took phone in next morning and the guy in the store told me the reason it's dead is because it's been reported stolen and theres nothing i can do to take it off the blacklist the phones useless to me now. I was so embarrassed I got home and called ex saying after all this you knew you had reported it stolen and he said he never reported it stolen and why would he as it's in his name and he would be stuck with contract he then said he would call them as they have fu*ked up somewhere and that I'm making him stressed and he's getting high blood pressure and how we don't get on when we talk and he will come off whilst he cos them. Whilst he was on the phone to them he was texting me how angry he is that I've accused him of reporting the phone and that he's been helping me out with it even though he has seen me snogging another man up town 2 weeks ago which is absolutely not true as Ive been working every weekend and have not met with anyone, he said but anyway I'm past caring. I asked him where he gets all this B.S. from? and he said he drove past and saw me and got his mate to beep me and call me. I told him I havnt been out since we split so it defo wasn't me.... He then called me to say the blacklist has been lifted that he had called them and sorted it... I really think this was his doing. There was no way anyone else could report it and I'm sure that only the person that reports it can get it lifted. It's just so unnessasery all this. I'm now back to no contact. Edited January 13, 2018 by Bekki47 Spelling error
JuneL Posted January 13, 2018 Posted January 13, 2018 Why would you go through this crap and keep the phone? Transfer the data and get a new phone. Let him get stuck with the contract. It's not your problem. 1
preraph Posted January 13, 2018 Posted January 13, 2018 He did it. He did it without thinking it through that the phone was in his name. He did it trying to get you in trouble and instead got himself in trouble. If he hadn't been the one who reported it stolen, he'd never have been able to undo it.
stillafool Posted January 13, 2018 Posted January 13, 2018 Get your own phone and contract and don't be bothered with your ex anymore. 1
Author Bekki47 Posted January 13, 2018 Author Posted January 13, 2018 I will do. I'll go back to my own contract I had before..I only kept this because it was a gift.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted January 13, 2018 Posted January 13, 2018 Whilst he was on the phone to them he was texting me how angry he is that I've accused him of reporting the phone and that he's been helping me out with it even though he has seen me snogging another man up town 2 weeks ago which is absolutely not true as Ive been working every weekend and have not met with anyone, he said but anyway I'm past caring. I asked him where he gets all this B.S. from? and he said he drove past and saw me and got his mate to beep me and call me. I told him I havnt been out since we split so it defo wasn't me.... He then called me to say the blacklist has been lifted that he had called them and sorted it... I really think this was his doing. There was no way anyone else could report it and I'm sure that only the person that reports it can get it lifted. It's just so unnessasery all this. I'm now back to no contact. It sounds like giving you the phone was about control, so he could keep tabs on you. He gave away his motive for reporting the phone because he was angry and jealous at the thought of you with another guy. The fact that he just happened to be driving past 'might' be a coincidence, but getting his friend to call you to see where you were was crossing a line. You are not together, so that sort of behavior is inappropriate. Was he also able to monitor you phone calls too? If his name is on the contract as the account holder, he probably had that kind of access. If any of the people you have contacted recently receive weird calls or hang ups, it will most likely have something to do with him. Regardless of whether his motives were good or bad, I agree that you should get rid of the phone now.
Popsicle Posted January 13, 2018 Posted January 13, 2018 I will do. I'll go back to my own contract I had before..I only kept this because it was a gift. Here's your first lesson in "He said it was a gift but it really wasn't" Remember it for the future.
JuneL Posted January 13, 2018 Posted January 13, 2018 How was it a gift if he only paid for one month of the payment plan?
Author Bekki47 Posted January 13, 2018 Author Posted January 13, 2018 (edited) I know well it's not really a gift because I'm paying it..but it was wrapped up as a present for my birthday with the plan underneath lol....also he says he was driving through town with his friend and he said they saw me in the street with a guy and his mate beeped me and called my name but this is a lie because I havnt been up town and I've never once been with a guy since the break up. He just made it up its imposdinle i was working night shift Edited January 13, 2018 by Bekki47
Gr8fuln2020 Posted January 13, 2018 Posted January 13, 2018 ALL about manipulation and control. Let him deal with the phone issues.
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