purplesoccer34 Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 (edited) I've posted about this situation before, but I'm still quite bothered by it and I'm not sure what to do. Long story short, I have a few coworkers who I spend time with every now and then outside of work. One of these coworkers was just a friend--or so I thought--until he randomly kissed me one day (while slightly buzzed) and told me he always had feelings for me. My response to that wasn't super enthusiastic, mostly because I was surprised to hear it. I told him I felt the same way, but I'm not sure it sounded believable. After this happened, he would hardly speak to me at all. His responses to my texts would be one-word answers, and at work, he'd ignore me. He's talking to me a bit more now (and occasionally calls me some flirtatious things like "babe"), but our friendship is not like how it used to be. I'm the one who initiates the texting convos, and they always seem so forced. This happened a few weeks ago, but I can't stop thinking about it. We haven't spoken about this at all (we've basically pretended like nothing ever happened), and I'm really really wondering if he meant what he said. I don't care so much about the possibility of dating him anymore - I mostly just want to know what he's thinking because he's my friend, and I'm curious. Mostly because this isn't the first time he's shown some type of interest--he's shown some subtle signs several times before, but I never thought much of them. I suppose I'm now just looking for an answer. And the only way I can truly know what's going on inside his head is by asking him. Would it be weird or awkward to bring this up, especially to someone who hardly speaks to me anymore? Will it possibly make him feel so awkward that he might not want to speak to me ever again? On the bright side, he's been transferred to a completely different department, so we don't see each other at work anymore. Edited January 11, 2018 by purplesoccer34
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 I'd just ask him. It's not an everyday occurrence, so you're within your rights to ask about it . 1
Highndry Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 I'd talk to him. Maybe he was a little boozy and is uncomfortable about it now.
Taryanoriley Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 He felt vulnerable when he told you that and now he's backing away.
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