mortensorchid Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 I have attempted to get back into the dating world and get back on a few websites or two to try to communicate. Just to get my feet wet, I tried OKCupid and POF. Results? I've been in the OLD world long enough (as well as others no doubt) to know how these things work ... I think when you sign up on these websites, paid or not, you get a lot of traffic as the "new guy / girl" that people are looking at. And then it goes down because it ... Just does. I am on OKC and POF just to test the waters. I am talking to a few people here and there but it's just a penpal kind of situation. Only three I have gotten over to trading phone numbers with, they have sent texts, but ... They're not that into me. I know this because eventually they taper off or because we are just talking about our days. One or two we had made a tentative plan to meet up on [date] (they asked me), either he or I would send the other a text saying "Are we on for [date/day/time]?" No answer. SO I move on. I don't think I am wrong to be disappointed, but not hurt by it because I know how OLD works. I am raising my standards as well, not going for someone just because he's interested, want someone who has something going for him, deserves to be with me, etc. Should I move onto a paid website to find a better quality man or maybe actually meet someone face to face now? I will NEVER use EHarmony again, that's a very expensive way to talk to people. The only alternative seems to be Match. Can others recommend something else? Any similar experiences?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 I dated someone for 10 months I met from eHarmony, but I agree, I do not recommend it. It's too cumbersome, matches are too far away, and it's expensive. I have used Match in the past and if I was going to use a paid one, I'd use that again. It's like all the rest though....lots of "attention" at first and then it dies off. (Which isn't a bad thing) If I decide to do online dating again at some point, I might try Bumble....someone posted about this earlier. Have you tried that?
Highndry Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 If I ever end up on an online dating site, it's going to go about like this: "Hey, would you like to get together at Coffee House X for a quick drink to see if there's attraction?" I think anything short of that is a bunch of useless keystrokes. Nothing beats in person, and I refuse to even engage in long-winded, pointless online banter. Just my humble opinion of course! 1
Highndry Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 I dated someone for 10 months I met from eHarmony, but I agree, I do not recommend it. It's too cumbersome, matches are too far away, and it's expensive. I have used Match in the past and if I was going to use a paid one, I'd use that again. It's like all the rest though....lots of "attention" at first and then it dies off. (Which isn't a bad thing) If I decide to do online dating again at some point, I might try Bumble....someone posted about this earlier. Have you tried that? You'd get plenty of attention even with that cropped pic. jk 2
Author mortensorchid Posted January 11, 2018 Author Posted January 11, 2018 Bumble is terrible, at least for me. I met one and only one person with that. I was very excited about it going in and it ended with him hugging me good-bye and saying "Good luck". I felt my heart drop into my stomach when he said that, because I was never going to hear from him again. And I didn't. All others with Bumble I connect with then they ask to see another picture of me. WHen I send them another picture (not of me naked or questionable in it) some never respond or say back "thanks". I'm done with that app, it's nonsense. Tinder? I have met a few people on Tinder. One was a friend for a while, he's a good man but he was clearly just a friend when I met him and he remains one. Others? Nothing else. I'm also done with Tinder. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 Bumble is terrible, at least for me. I met one and only one person with that. I was very excited about it going in and it ended with him hugging me good-bye and saying "Good luck". I felt my heart drop into my stomach when he said that, because I was never going to hear from him again. And I didn't. All others with Bumble I connect with then they ask to see another picture of me. WHen I send them another picture (not of me naked or questionable in it) some never respond or say back "thanks". I'm done with that app, it's nonsense. Tinder? I have met a few people on Tinder. One was a friend for a while, he's a good man but he was clearly just a friend when I met him and he remains one. Others? Nothing else. I'm also done with Tinder. OK, yeah scratch Bumble then. It sounds a lot like Tinder, which I've also never tried.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 11, 2018 Posted January 11, 2018 You'd get plenty of attention even with that cropped pic. jk Aw, shucks . 1
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