Link-80 Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Hey so I don't know but I was reading another post here and figured you guys could help. I'm worried I might be becoming too boring around my girlfriend. I mean I am a nice guy, but nver thought I waas predictable. The only thing I'd say is predicatable is that I only see her on the weekend because I work a night shift and she lives 35 minutes away. When I'm at her place I don't always sit with her, sometimes push her away. If we go out for dinner I'll only pay for hers if I feel like it. In person it's great, we cuddle, kiss, make love, poke fun at each other. But for some reason talking online and on the phone...it's as if I don't have much to talk about. We do love each other, but I still doin't know everything about her so it's hard to find conversation pieces. I think thisweekend I may try being more unpredictable / daring and ask some blunt questions about what I want to know, because we don't ever really have "in-depth" conversations, evne though I know we could. I can always make her laugh and smile, but it feels liek I'm missing something. Maybe I'm just reading too much into it. Edit, posted in other forum...wrong forum tho.
texastapper Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Man it sounds like you are reading into things too much and need to be more relaxed around her. I can see where you are trying to play the, I Dont care card," but watch it man that can come back and haunt you more than you will imagine. Bottomline relax, and be a nice guy, but keep that little bit of edge to you. This weekend when you see her, play a game with her to where she has to answer the questions you want to know.. Do the old Truth or Dare...make it more interesting instead of stirring her up and wigging her out by overloading her with questions. No girl wants to be put in a pressure situation, so think twice before slamming her with questions. But if you are dying to know then just think about how you word it before asking...Girls read into everything!! If you think you are boring spice it up this weekend, be adventurous or pull a romantic side out on her.. Do the roses and candles thing, she wont forget that!! Good luck.. Justin
Author Link-80 Posted August 24, 2005 Author Posted August 24, 2005 Well I did ask her if she thought I was boring, and she said "No, why would I wanna hang out with you and go out with you?" I then asked her if I was unpredictable/spontaneous and she responded with "No" then the next message was "well sometimes yes." I dunno if that helps with my situation.
texastapper Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Okay when you are asking her all those questions you are coming off like you have no confidence in yourself. Believe me nothing drives a woman more crazy than her man being confident. Dont ask her about the piddle little things like am I spontaneous or boring...instead act out on them and be those things. Something tells me you can be a confident person, but this little voice in your head is telling you to think other wise.. Stay focused on the great things you offer her, and make the time you do spend with her absolutely unforgetable everytime you are with her..That alone will make you feel more confident and look more appealing to her. Believe in yourself, before anyone else can believe in you!!
Link-80- Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Wella yeah, I'm usually what I've heard referred to as "cocky and funny", but it's just our online and phone conversations can sometimes be very boring, and I don't know why. I guess it just really bugs me.
runner Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 have you considered that perhaps she just doesn't interest you intellectually ?
Link-80- Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 No I don't think it's that...I think I've just never taken the time to really have kinds of conversations. We've had some...like to clear things up she's still ins chool, and we talked about things like how her mother is neglecteing her and the court case for custody and stuff, but I'd love to have a face to face talk like that.
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