knight192 Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 Hi I gave my number to that waitress in a restaurant. She contacted me and we dated two times before I went back to my native country for two weeks for Xmas. We kissed the first date and kept in touch everyday by text while I was away. We met again when I came back and she told she was looking forward to see me. We had a really good time and i went to hers. During that date she told me she quit her job and she was going to another city to work for 3 weeks from next week and then she would go back to her native country for at least two weeks. Then when she would come back, she would go to another city for a couple of weeks to work and finally come back to the city we live. That was pretty bad news. We dated two more times before she left. At the beginning of the last date she said she might invite me to spend the weekend with her. Two days after she left she sent me a text to tell me she would like us to stop. I asked her if I could call to talk through it and she said yes. She told me that there was many thing through our dates that makes her thinks we would be a terrible couple and that she hadn't any feelings for me and couldn't even be excited thinking about me joining her for the weekend. I told her that I was surprised as she seemed to be happy around me and that I was as well and that I don't think you can get feelings within 5 dates. She sticked to her position though she said she did have a good time with me and that she can't be bothered to keep in touch while she is away with some guy she is not sure about. I am disappointed because I really liked her. I know she is back in my town for one weekend. Anything I can do? I was thinking to leave it till she pop back that weekend and ask her if she'd like to have a drink... Thanks for your kind help.
Frostedflake Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 While I don't think you can get deep feelings in 5 dates, you can get a decent sense of direction. That's probably what she meant. She doesn't see it going anywhere. That may have little to do with you! She might have plans and desires she's not expressing and she knows you don't fit the bill without dissecting you to your face about the specifics. Especially because she DID SAY, "there was many thing throughout the dates that makes her think you would be a terrible couple." Kudos for having the guts to ask out a waitress. But I'd really cut my losses here. You gave it a fair shot and you just weren't compatible with each other. 1
SpinScratch Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 Well... She says you dont match. There's not much you can do about that. If she came out and told you that, you're not going to be able to convince her otherwise. Just be thankful she was straight forward about it instead of giving you the run around until you figured it out on your own. Five dates? Did you do anything more than kiss her the first date? Maybe you should have. She would have had more invested in you. Keep that in mind for the next one.
smackie9 Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 She told you already she's not interested so let it go. You win some, you lose some. 1
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