Katluv514 Posted January 9, 2018 Posted January 9, 2018 Long story short me and my ex broke up because of him wanting to move back to his country. We tried to see each other casually after but it didn't work and he was cold towards the end because he knew our relationship wouldn't go anywhere since he's leaving the end of this month. Things ended badly, we have mutual friends. He ended up trying to hook up with this one girl that was supposed to be my friend and I blasted him. A lot of hurtful things were said on both of our ends and he told everyone that the move although is true, was also a way to end things. However he would still keep tabs on me and freaked out on my friend when he found out I was seeing someone new. 2 months later since he blow up he called and texted me yesterday saying "I really need your help, I'm not joking". Stupid me replied because I do still care about him even though I hate him at the same time. When I tried to call back it went straight to voicemail and I got worried. When I got a hold of him from my friend's phone he said he blocked my number cause he though I blocked him when I didn't pick up. His voice went soft like how it used to and not cold like during the time when we were ending things. I asked him what happened that he needed me help and he said oh it's fine now. Like WTF could have been so bad that you needed to reach out to me. Half an hr later he texts me asking if I passed all my classes for school.He knew that I was struggling with some of my classes but I ended up getting my **** together and passed. Like are you serious right now. He talked so much **** and still cares about how I did this past semester. Do you think he still cares about me? It sucks, I think he's scum for the **** he's been doing and saying about me but I can't help but still miss him. I'm definitely not thinking about contacting him but do you think he would try to again?
Frostedflake Posted January 9, 2018 Posted January 9, 2018 I think he loves the idea of you on a string until he can snag a new girl. 1) There was probably no emergency that he needed help with. There is literally never anything dire to contact an ex about unless you have kids with that ex. Everything else is petty and a bait. 2) You intercepted his attempt to sleep with your friend. He probably hasn't gotten any since. 3) He wanted to see how far you would go to return his call and softened up only because you showed him you're still majorly invested and not because he cares. The guy shows all the signs of a manipulator. Be glad he's in another country and move on with your life. 1
magnesium Posted January 9, 2018 Posted January 9, 2018 Yes he will try again and again and again if you keep letting him. He sounds emotionally immature, and maybe he keeps coming back to you out of guilt for his actions, and not for actual concern for you. In other words, his hot and cold behavior is stemming from his selfish personality. Don't let his problems become your problems. Good luck. 1
Author Katluv514 Posted January 9, 2018 Author Posted January 9, 2018 I think he loves the idea of you on a string until he can snag a new girl. 1) There was probably no emergency that he needed help with. There is literally never anything dire to contact an ex about unless you have kids with that ex. Everything else is petty and a bait. 2) You intercepted his attempt to sleep with your friend. He probably hasn't gotten any since. 3) He wanted to see how far you would go to return his call and softened up only because you showed him you're still majorly invested and not because he cares. The guy shows all the signs of a manipulator. Be glad he's in another country and move on with your life. Pretty much what my mother and friends have told me. I've been doing fine overall. It's just stupid for him to do this when everything has died down. Funny enough that girl actually did go out with him and flaunted their pictures in my friends' faces. What a snake she is and I'm sure they don't even talk anymore. She ended up trying to humiliate me on another occasion and it didn't work, she ended up deleting her Facebook. I'm sure it was a way for him to also get back at me. Her reasoning, idk other than she's that type of girl.
mayonnaise Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 He just wants to check if you're still waiting for him. This is when No Contact is most crucial. 1
Frostedflake Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 Pretty much what my mother and friends have told me. I've been doing fine overall. It's just stupid for him to do this when everything has died down. Funny enough that girl actually did go out with him and flaunted their pictures in my friends' faces. What a snake she is and I'm sure they don't even talk anymore. She ended up trying to humiliate me on another occasion and it didn't work, she ended up deleting her Facebook. I'm sure it was a way for him to also get back at me. Her reasoning, idk other than she's that type of girl. So you're definitely wise to two faced people like that girl and he's just another one. I would really suggest blocking any outlet he might use in the future to contact you to keep this from happening again. You're much better off.
CaliBabe Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 This. This is correct. He just wants to check if you're still waiting for him. This is when No Contact is most crucial. 1
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