jagger801 Posted January 9, 2018 Posted January 9, 2018 So here’s the thing. I met this woman, she lives about a half hour from me. We had been talking and hit it off. We went on our first date, seemed to go well. After that, she stopped talking. A week later she starts again like nothing happened. We go on a second date, all seems to go well and she stops talking again. After the second date within a week she maybe said 4 things if that. Something happened and I told her in hopes she’d be interested but apparently not. Last week she tells me, I’m so busy I work a lot, I only have time to do things on certain days. Great! I’ll make it work with my schedule. The other day she says, I want to call you when I get home. Ok, great, let’s talk. Gets home, oh, I’m too tired to talk, good night. She claims she’s too busy to talk, or text yet my schedule is jammed full and I make time to text her. I say she’s stringing me along and she’s full of drama, yet a friend says she’s busy and be patient. If this is a game to her, and she is stringing me along, I’m tired of it. Should I just give up on her knowing I tried? Or, give her a chance. She has told me if I lived closer she’d be doing more activities etc. Is a half hour really too far? I’m ready to cut the connection and the drama and move on. I’m tired of wondering, will I hear from her? Am I good enough? She claims she was in a badminton relationship once, but I don’t think this is what’s going on. Thoughts?
Miss Spider Posted January 9, 2018 Posted January 9, 2018 Yes, it sounds to me as though she is a multi dating and you are on the back burner. 1
Author jagger801 Posted January 9, 2018 Author Posted January 9, 2018 For confirming. That’s what I was suspecting. Time to say goodbye to her
I'veseenbetterlol Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 I have noticed when dating if I felt I was being strung along, 99.9% of the time I was. Listen to your gut and find someone who doesn't string you along, they do not deserve your attention.
Iseult Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 She claims she was in a badminton relationship once, but I don’t think this is what’s going on. What, pray tell, is a "badminton relationship"? Does this have something to do with the thread title?
act00 Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 Whether or not she's dating someone or multidating, the question is if her busy lifestyle is working for you or not. It's not. She could just be genuinely busy, and your mutual friend hasn't alluded to her seeing other people, but who knows? It's not enough contact for you. I'm sure she likes you, but not enough or in that way enough to create more time. I agree, you can wait it out and see, but if your needs aren't being met, then you have to decide if waiting is worth it to you. Yes, 30 minutes can feel like a lot depending on the circumstances. It's really not too bad, and I'm assuming you're willing and able to make the trip out in her direction as well, so the burden isn't entirely on her. If not, that's going to add to her busy schedule. That's an hour round trip, and depending on her work location, the time and distance can compound that. It does come across as stringing you along and keeping you on the back burner. You decide if she's genuinely interested enough that waiting it out is worth it to you or to cut your losses, and I think you made your choice.
gbe2015 Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 (edited) Yes, it sounds to me as though she is a multi dating and you are on the back burner. They've only been on a couple dates. That doesn't make them exclusive. He can date a couple people to fill in the time too. Edited January 10, 2018 by gbe2015
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