Angelina1433 Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 So I have a guy friend that is an absolute hunk. He has wanted me for years, but we have always remained great friends (except for a brief 2 week amorous relationship when we first met). Anyway, since I've broken up with my boyfriend, we've been going out together - a lot. These "dates" have been fabulous. We can never shut up or stop laughing. If this were a guy I just met, I'd want to really date him. However, I JUST broke up with my boyfriend, and I don't want a new one right away. He mentioned that he'd be fine with being FWB - and so we made out (heavily) one weekend. I got freaked out, kicked him out, talked to him a week later and told him how I felt. He said that we can go back to being JUST friends. But can we really???? That spark is definitely there - and when he talks about other girls, I'm jealous. Bah!!
animo Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 So make up your mind then? Sounds to me like hes fine with just about anything...boyfriend, FWB, friends... So what's your problem? Make your choice and move on!
kitkat826 Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 Try no contact for a while..see if you end up missing his bod or his personality more. Regardless, if you say you aren't ready for a boyfriend yet, I'd be careful because it sounds like you could really develop some feelings for him. By the way, if you do want to maintain the possibility of actually dating him, be weary of becoming FWB. Could ruin the chance of a more serious relationship.
Author Angelina1433 Posted August 24, 2005 Author Posted August 24, 2005 see if you end up missing his bod or his personality more. That's just it!! It sucks, because I really miss his personality more - and it's only been a couple of days since I told him why I kicked him out... And you're right, I need to dismiss the FWB thing, because it will only screw with my head - now and possibly in the future. It's just that we've always been like brother and sister; we both tell each other everything, and now we've kissed and I feel like we've screwed up everything, although he's "OK" with going back to just being friends. But won't the make out session always be in the back (or front) of our minds? And BTW, we're both adults - way past 18
kitkat826 Posted August 24, 2005 Posted August 24, 2005 I say try to go with the flow as much as possible to see whether you can maintain the friendship without it being always on your minds. Don't jump to conclusions too fast! You'll only drive yourself crazy. Time is really the only thing that will show you the truth on this.
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