Mx12345 Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 Ive started dating again these past few months after two 10 month long hiatuses. Prior to that, I haven't had a true boyfriend/relationship in over 4 years. I know everyone's situation is different, but I was hoping to get some insight on what peoples experience was going from dating to a relationship. I think my last relationship that ended four years ago, we started dating at the end of April, and called each other boyfriend and girlfriend by July. However prior to that I was with someone for three years, and after our second date we were glued to each other and official from that point on. Did you date only that person and then decide to make it official? Were you dating a few people here and there but only really focusing on that person? How long did it take? What was the timeline? Did you talk every day? How often did you see each other? I'm mostly just curious as to what is considered normal these days. Ive currently been on 6 dates in a 4 week period with this current guy. I really like him but I'm trying to just let things happen naturally, not overthink it, be positive.
d0nnivain Posted January 9, 2018 Posted January 9, 2018 It varied by relationship. Once when I was multi-dating, I did gradually break it off with the others & was exclusive on my side before we had the "talk." I think he had been exclusive all along. Most times it was fairly seamless. As I grew to like somebody & wanting to spend more time with them I had less time to go out & meet others. It was easier to focus one on one. When I was younger I was open to sex before exclusivity because I was all about the chase & didn't really want a relationship. With DH about a month in, before we slept together, I asked him if he was still active on Match. He had told me he had a profile. I wasn't on OLD as my subscription to e-harmony had lapsed months before I met DH. I did make a fake Match profile solely to look at DH's profile. Anyway, he said he had taken it down when he met me. I checked. It was down. Once we became intimate neither of us ever looked back.
Iseult Posted January 10, 2018 Posted January 10, 2018 I really like him but I'm trying to just let things happen naturally, not overthink it, be positive. That's the spirit! It's a good thing you're not over-thinking it by posting broad, immaterial questions about a budding relationship on an anonymous internet forum where conflicting opinions and non sequiturs can cloud an already anxious mind.
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