gbe2015 Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 So I've been on 2 dates with a girl and from what I can tell everything has been going well. At least I thought so. Day after the last date I send her a text saying I had a good time & I'd like to see her again and let me know when she available. She responded and said she also had a good time and 'maybe this weekend'? I said let's go with Saturday and she said yes. At first I thought all was good but then I realized she said MAYBE this weekend. I could be over thinking this and she just said maybe because my question to her was also vague but from my experience women use maybe as a polite way of saying no. Now I'm wondering if she's either going to flake on me or even worse go out on the date when she really doesn't want to be there. Thoughts?
PegNosePete Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 I could be over thinking this and she just said maybe because my question to her was also vague Yes exactly. You asked her about saturday and she said yes. That's all you need to know.
hippychick3 Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 She said yes when you asked her. Stop overthinking. The only reason she used the word “‘maybe” was because she didn’t want to be too pushy and wanted you to be the one to ask her out.
Assassino Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 You asked her Saturday, she said yes.. But did you tell her the time and place to meet up? If not, you didn't set definite plans meaning she can easily back out on you.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 You're overthinking. She used the word maybe to ask if you are free this weekend.
ChatroomHero Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 I think you'll only have your answer if she cancels. If something comes up, if she starts dropping hints during the week about things she has to juggle this weekend to soften the cancel etc., then I would factor in the maybe and in retrospect the "maybe" would be telling. Best you can do is wait until Saturday and see if she cancels, or if you try to confirm Friday or something and she gets wishy-washy, I would take the earlier "maybe" as her setting up a cancellation. Until then I wouldn't sweat it because you cannot really know what it meant until the weekend. A lot of times a maybe is deferring the rejection because she couldn't think of a good reason to say no and prepping for the 'something suddenly came up' excuse. She did say yes to Saturday, so I would take that to mean when you asked she had nothing planned. If something comes up or she realizes she suddenly has plans, I'd move on but I would reserve judgment until that happens.
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