1fish2fish Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 I dated a guy once who had to be touching me every minute. It wasn't "cuddling" per se, but holding onto me like I was a life raft. I remember one incident where I had to sneeze but couldn't cover my mouth because he had his arms wrapped around me (we were walking through a mall) and holding both of my hands. I mean, come on! I didn't have the use of my hands and he didn't loosen his grip when I tried to shake a hand free! lol Another time I had an itch under my eye, but, again, I couldn't scratch it because he was wrapped around me. So I get it. There's cuddling, and then there's feeling like you're dating a straight jacket. 5
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 I dated a guy once who had to be touching me every minute. It wasn't "cuddling" per se, but holding onto me like I was a life raft. I remember one incident where I had to sneeze but couldn't cover my mouth because he had his arms wrapped around me (we were walking through a mall) and holding both of my hands. I mean, come on! I didn't have the use of my hands and he didn't loosen his grip when I tried to shake a hand free! lol Another time I had an itch under my eye, but, again, I couldn't scratch it because he was wrapped around me. So I get it. There's cuddling, and then there's feeling like you're dating a straight jacket. :lmao:
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 5 minutes? You make it sound very mechanical or as though it’s just a transaction. When you do that, do you consider the other person to be your boyfriend or do you see him more as an f buddy? Wham bam thank you....erm, sir. Is that all he is? I don't set a timer .
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 Hmmm. Seems like there's a lot of people on the Asperger's syndrome spectrum in this thread. What an unusual diagnosis to make here. What are you basing it on? 2
stillafool Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 OP don't worry, your relationship is new. Months from now you will be starting a thread asking "Why doesn't my bf want to cuddle with me anymore". 2
SpinScratch Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 Ive been single a while... I have this "friend" who I see on an irregular basis. She is somewhat attractive but I do not want to have sex with her. She will text me and ask to come over. We put something on Netflix, get on the couch and wrap each other up for about 3-4 hours. We dont even really talk. We just need some human contact. It's ecstasy. Some women get into it like that and some dont.
SpinScratch Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 I dated a guy once who had to be touching me every minute. It wasn't "cuddling" per se, but holding onto me like I was a life raft. I remember one incident where I had to sneeze but couldn't cover my mouth because he had his arms wrapped around me (we were walking through a mall) and holding both of my hands. I mean, come on! I didn't have the use of my hands and he didn't loosen his grip when I tried to shake a hand free! lol Another time I had an itch under my eye, but, again, I couldn't scratch it because he was wrapped around me. So I get it. There's cuddling, and then there's feeling like you're dating a straight jacket.this is kinda scary to be honest. Theres a time and a plcae, and walking through the mall isnt one of them LOL 2
1fish2fish Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 this is kinda scary to be honest. Theres a time and a plcae, and walking through the mall isnt one of them LOL Tell me about it!!! lol He was like a barnacle on me, and we actually blocked narrow aisles where people couldn't go around us!
carhill Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 I remember one night our SFO-NRT flight was delayed a bit and this young couple was going at it on the gate seats, I mean for an hour or more. It was so bad people got up and left. We old goats just sat on in amazement. This guy's behaviors, and his repetitive checking, indicate he's not there yet in the romance department. He might be sincere and have a good heart but the style just isn't fleshed out yet, especially perceiving signals from his partner and acting on them. I'd take one of his checking moments to give him the old too much of a good thing is too much, ya know? Then listen. If he can dial it back with some good humor, it might work out. Else, probably incompatible.
BluesPower Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 Gotta say... I am a big cuddle guy and New GF is the same. It just depends on who is in the best position as to who is touching who first. I LOVE it. I love touching her and she loves touching me. When we sleep we hold each other all night. I have a high body temp so when she is cold she is all wrapped up with me. And this does not always lead to sex, a lot of the time it does, but not always. So it is just different strokes for different folks...
Gaeta Posted January 8, 2018 Posted January 8, 2018 I think you are both at the opposite ends of the spectrum and it won't work if you ask him to change or if you try to endure it. He will starve the physical affection he needs or you'll feel overwhelmed like right now. This is your first incompatibility, there will be more to come.
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