faithandfood Posted January 6, 2018 Posted January 6, 2018 Sigh. So this guy and I've been following each other on social media for about six years. Never met him in person or anything. I remember in 2012, he mentioned how I seem like a nice person or whatever. That was that. Fast forward to 17-18, he followed me on Instagram. We started talking a bit more (mainly jokes) as he usually respond sometimes to my stories. SO yesterday, I posted a 80s pic of my mom & he asked whether we were twins. After joking, he was like, "hmm to start an investment or not?" I ignored the statement and proceeded to make a joke, which I believe he thought I was dismissing him. I was like, "please sit down" usually it means like stop that nonsense in my culture. He then was like, "Lmao well damn. Blocked shot oh well." I didn't even know what that meant, but I told him I didn't mean it like that. He was then like, "if you say so" so I told then told him I was confused about the investment part. I told him I kinda understood, and wondered if he meant like a relationship or something. He said, "if I made an investment, then what?" And when I told him to explain, he said he was tired of explaining. (I sometimes tend to ask obvious questions, but I apologized for being annoying). Now he's not telling me what this investment thing means, and I'm just like omg. I kinda regret what I said. I kinda like him, tbh. Like I don't mind getting to know him.
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2018 Posted January 6, 2018 What chance? In 6 freakin' years you have never managed to take this off line & meet in person. All the banter in the world is no substitute for an actual meeting. Until you can do that, there is nothing here except an occasional meaningless amusement for a few moments. 3
Author faithandfood Posted January 6, 2018 Author Posted January 6, 2018 Well, we've just been following each other. We never actually talked until about three months ago
smackie9 Posted January 6, 2018 Posted January 6, 2018 Drop your culture and pull up your big girl panties and tell him to ask you out on a date if he wants to invest in something..... 1
SpinScratch Posted January 6, 2018 Posted January 6, 2018 He was trying to feel you out in a non-direct way to tell you he likes you and you made it awkward for him by asking him to over explain himself. He was saying you would still be beautiful at your moms age in the picture. You didnt miss your chance, thats not enough to get a guy to stop liking you. Keep the conversation going. One of you is gonna have to grow a set of balls and ask to meet. edit: just say... if by investment you mean asking me out, I would say yes... boom thats how you fix this whole thing. 1
ironspider Posted January 6, 2018 Posted January 6, 2018 It's simple really. He just doesn't want to explain himself and thought it was pretty self explanatory, and further explanation will require him to lay his intentions on the table which he not ready to do. Tell him you understand exactly what he was talking about. Make another joke about the blocked shot and tell him to take another shot. 1
Author faithandfood Posted January 7, 2018 Author Posted January 7, 2018 Well. I told him was confused. He said that he takes the shot back because I blocked it and I was being extra. I even tried to explain myself, but he keeps saying "Hmm okay" so I told him it's like he doesn't believe me. It's whatever
Iseult Posted January 7, 2018 Posted January 7, 2018 I didn't even know what that meant, but I told him I didn't mean it like that. I don't know what this means, but I don't mean it like that.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 7, 2018 Posted January 7, 2018 I'm 45 years old and I've never heard that phrase. I have no clue what he meant! I would have assumed it was an auto-correct. I have a few opposite sex friends on FB I've never met in person. If they requested me and we have a common friend who I respect in common, I'll accept. 1
Miss Spider Posted January 7, 2018 Posted January 7, 2018 This brings “taking things slow” to a whole new level. Just ask him out already!!! 2
Author faithandfood Posted January 7, 2018 Author Posted January 7, 2018 Okay.. I told him I misunderstood right. I even showed him screenshots of where I got confused. So when I asked him again about the investment, he told me he already took it back because I blocked the shot & I was being extra. And when I explained myself, he just said "Hmm okay" so I replied with and told him it's like he doesn't believe me/what I'm saying isn't true. Mentioned again how I didn't block the shot and he last said, "Hmm interesting" like I tried..he hasn't replied
SpinScratch Posted January 7, 2018 Posted January 7, 2018 Okay.. I told him I misunderstood right. I even showed him screenshots of where I got confused. So when I asked him again about the investment, he told me he already took it back because I blocked the shot & I was being extra. And when I explained myself, he just said "Hmm okay" so I replied with and told him it's like he doesn't believe me/what I'm saying isn't true. Mentioned again how I didn't block the shot and he last said, "Hmm interesting" like I tried..he hasn't replied tell him you would like to talk about it in person to clear it up Jeez, both of you two wanna meet each other. Someone just has to have to courage to say it. 2
FilterCoffee Posted January 7, 2018 Posted January 7, 2018 "hmm to start an investment or not?" He said that to gauge your interest in him. Unfortunately, when you told him to “sit down” he figured that you friend zoned him so he stopped pursuing you. Just a comedy of errors really. You like him so be direct and communicate your feelings. He likes you too so hopefully he won’t say anything stupid. 1
Author faithandfood Posted January 7, 2018 Author Posted January 7, 2018 What's the point. I don't even think he likes me. You know how I said, "I mentioned I didn't block the shot before" he just said now, "I know but by that time, I already took it back lol" I'm thinking of just replying with "Well okay" I don't want to seem desperate..I feel like I already have
SpinScratch Posted January 7, 2018 Posted January 7, 2018 What's the point. I don't even think he likes me. You know how I said, "I mentioned I didn't block the shot before" he just said now, "I know but by that time, I already took it back lol" I'm thinking of just replying with "Well okay" I don't want to seem desperate..I feel like I already have How do you not know if he likes you? He found you on instagram and is messaging you on there. He commented on your looks and admitted he was taking a shot. You guys are making this way more awkward than it needs to be. Say "Do you want to get together sometime" ... its that easy, you can have exactly what you want if one of you would just spit it out 1
Author faithandfood Posted January 7, 2018 Author Posted January 7, 2018 Well, he already has this notion that I'm "extra" and probably thinks I'm rude. If I say that comment, now I'm shooting my shot, and watch him shoot me down. Have a feeling he might say "Hmm why" I thought maybe he would change his mind when I said "I didn't block it" like three times. He just said "I already took it back" like okay..
Arieswoman Posted January 7, 2018 Posted January 7, 2018 Faithandfood, What the heck is all this about? I mean really? You are texting some guy who you've never met, that you have communication problems with, and you say that you like him and want to meet him? You don't even know this guy. What is the matter with people nowadays that they can't pick up a freakin' phone and actually talk?! It's been three months and this hasn't moved forward, so cut your losses and look for a real guy, not a virtual one.
Author faithandfood Posted January 7, 2018 Author Posted January 7, 2018 I mean, I know. I just maybe thought I can get to know him more. We're in the same city.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 7, 2018 Posted January 7, 2018 This all seems utterly pointless now. You've been on each other's social media for 6 years, chatted for a few months, and he uses teen internet-lingo to communicate with you. Now he's dodging your many attempts to explain. You're both focusing far too much on vernacular and not enough on the underlying issue of whether or not to meet in person. It appears he's either playing games with you or is not actually interested. 3 months is too long to be just chatting. It should have moved into an offline setting by this point. I would start focusing on other guys who are more direct, clear and want to actually see you in person. 1
Author faithandfood Posted January 7, 2018 Author Posted January 7, 2018 Well I have been going on dates since my breakup. It's not like I've been chatting straight with him for the entire three months. I don't mind meeting, but I don't know if he thinks I'm rude because of the way I reacted now.
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